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I love how magical the world can be.
Did you just question what you are about to read? Why are we talking about magic?
You can call it what you want, but to me magic are the things like synchronicities, miracles of life, such as birth, flipping the same oracle card over day after day. Your intuition guiding you to a crystal. You then read about it and are surprised, delighted and maybe a little weirded out by how on point the description was to what's going on or needed in your life right now.
Manifesting is also a part of this magic. Attracting what we desire.
I want this. I am going to will it in existence and then it shows up ! Does this not sound like magic to you?
The only problem with this is that there are a lot of factors that we don’t understand about manifesting that can affect the outcome.
In the spiritual/energetic world, there can be a lot of advice that will say to meditate on your desire and will it into existence. It’s not working? Ok, add affirmations. Does this sound familiar?
Now what about shame? Can you feel the shame of not being good enough enter your body? You’ve been trying to manifest this thing, and yet you keep attracting something else, or nothing seems to be happening. That must mean you aren’t spiritual enough or insert whatever negative belief comes in.
Let me just tell you that that is not true at all. You are good enough, you just don’t have all the information that you need.
The other factors that you really need to consider (this is the science part) are your nervous system, your subconscious mind and the core wounds that are driving you.
We can try to meditate all we want on what we desire, but if our nervous system doesn’t feel it would be safe to have what we desire, then we will subconsciously act in a way to protect ourselves. This means, that we won’t let that manifestation come true.
Becoming friends with our nervous system takes work and dedicated energy. A part of that work comes from understanding what your core wounds are, which I alluded to above. If one of your core wounds is “I’m not good enough”, then your subconscious actions will act accordingly. Maybe your wound is “I’m not worthy” or “I am bad” and therefore not deserving of good things to come to you. Can you see how this is creating a confusing ecosystem for your body?
So how do we change this so that our body can be in line with what we desire?
Once you understand what some of your wounding is you can start to find evidence of the opposite. Why ARE you worthy? Why is it POSSIBLE that you are worthy? And the important thing here is that you have to notice if your body believes your proof. This is what I do in my coaching sessions with women. I really help them to discern what feels good in their body. What sensations confirm truth, and how can we change what we are telling ourselves in a way where our subconscious can actually believe it.
If you don’t believe you are worthy, here are some ways you could subconsciously be acting:
Does this sound like a person who is going to manifest what she wants into her life?
No.
She has to understand what she needs and why. She needs to be expressing and holding her boundaries so that she knows that she can TRUST herself. She needs to know how to communicate clearly to herself, others and the universe what she desires and then take ACTION that aligns with that desire.
You will know when you are on the right path when you start to see the magic of synchronicities, aligned numbers or signs. (If that aligns with you)
The last thing I want you to understand is that our brain has this thing called the reticular activating system (RAS). The RAS sorts through information that we get throughout the day and shows us what is most important. So if our nervous system is always on alert because we don’t feel safe, the RAS will highlight the information that proves that there are threats to watch out for. So when we begin to change our belief patterns and create better truths, we also start to train the RAS to seek out these new, wonderful things.
This is when manifesting really starts to become evident in your life. You may start to see more people being kind to one another. You may realise that people have been opening doors for you and you never acknowledged it before. People start smiling at you more. Happy little surprises start happening. This is where we add gratitude and keep feeding the universe and our body the good information it needs to bring us what we want. We feel safe in our bodies, we open up more to others and start inviting in more opportunities.
If this conversation piqued intrigue in you, here are a few ways you can work or hang out with me.
My website: https://www.intimacyangel.ca/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimaxyangel/
Read my post from last month on why dance is healing. https://hhwglobal.com/blogs/collective-editorials/why-dance-is-healing-by-shelby-avann
I am the branch director in Newmarket for Happy Healthy Women so you can come and join one of our authentically connecting sessions.
Sign up for my upcoming dance class in Toronto called Movement Manifestation.
There's a lot of change in the air right now.
You can feel it in the season, spring arriving, everything beginning to shift, soften, and awaken again. But for me, it's not just nature that's changing. It's happening everywhere. In my business. In the way I'm showing up. In my personal life as we prepare for a move. It feels like I'm standing right in the middle of a full transformation.
Change can feel like a lot.
But here's what I keep coming back to: change doesn't have to be difficult. It's often us who make it feel that way. When we try to control every outcome, when we resist what's unfolding, when we grip tightly to what used to be, that's when change feels hard, overwhelming, and exhausting.
Lately, I've been learning something different. Letting go of what I can't control. Relaxing into what is. Walking through life with a little more ease, a little more trust, a little more balance.
It's not always easy. Some days feel messy. Some moments feel uncertain. But all we can do is try.
Because change is transformation. And when we allow ourselves to move through it instead of fighting it, we come out the other side feeling different. Lighter. Stronger. More aligned. The growth that happens within us is something we couldn't have forced, even if we tried.
And what about our pets through all of this?
They feel it too.
Right now, I'm living in a home filled with boxes, in-between spaces, and the energy of "what's next." And my sweet Finn is absolutely picking up on it. He knows something is shifting. He may not understand what, but he feels the change.
Because our pets are deeply connected to us. They don't just observe our lives, they feel them. So when we're moving through big transitions, they're moving through it with us.
So how do we support them and ourselves during times of change? We come back to the basics. The anchors. The things that create peace and calm.
Keep routines as steady as possible. Even when everything feels up in the air, routine creates grounding. Feed them at the same time. Keep walks consistent. Maintain sleep and wake rhythms. These small things matter more than we realize.
Regulate your own energy. When we're anxious, overwhelmed, or unsettled, our pets absorb that. They mirror it. So before we try to "fix" them, we gently check in with ourselves. Where am I at right now? What am I holding onto? Calm your system, and you'll naturally calm theirs.
Make space for connection. In the middle of the chaos, don't forget to pause. Sit on the couch. Breathe. Cuddle. Be present. These quiet, simple moments are incredibly regulating for both of you.
Give a little extra reassurance. Change can feel uncertain for them too. A little extra love, attention, and softness goes a long way in helping them feel safe.
At the end of the day, change is something we can't avoid. But we can choose how we move through it. With resistance or with grace. With tension or with trust. And when we choose ease, even just a little bit, we not only support ourselves, we support our pets in feeling safe, grounded, and held through it all.
You're not just navigating change. You're guiding your pet through it too.
And that's something really powerful.
Christine Barfield is the Intuitive Pet Healer, Communicator and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet. She has a deep love for rescue dogs and has made helping them her life’s work.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Looking for support for you and your pet? 1:1 PETs Healing Sessions
Story time. I feel called to share a little more of how this path with animals truly began.
As long as I can remember, I’ve always felt deeply connected to animals, especially dogs.
Even before I had pets of my own, I understood them. I could feel their emotions so clearly. If I’m being honest, there were times I felt more understood by animals than by people.
Growing up, I didn’t have pets because of allergies, but the pull toward animals never left me.
Like many of us, I followed the responsible path. I went to college, moved into corporate roles, and eventually built a career in finance. At first, I did enjoy parts of it. I love numbers and problem solving.
But my body knew something my mind hadn’t fully admitted yet.
My nervous system was overwhelmed. I began experiencing panic attacks, and stress rashes were showing up across my face. I knew something had to change.
That is when I began my own healing journey. I immersed myself in Reiki, Healing Touch, Integrative Energy Therapy, sound healing, yoga, anything that helped my body relax and breathe again.
And something beautiful happened.
Not only did I begin to feel better, I felt called to learn these modalities so I could help others too.
And then my heart got even louder.
What about the animals?
In December 2014, I made one of the biggest leaps of my life. I quit my finance job with nothing lined up, just a deep inner knowing that I was meant to work with animals.
By January 2nd, I had opened my dog walking and pet care business. By January 4th, I had my very first client.
I knew I was on the right path.
Over time, I began blending the energy modalities I had learned.
That is when PETs — Personal Energetic Techniques for Animals — was born.
In 2018, another beautiful piece of my path came forward, and The Fern and the Fox officially came to life.
I began creating intentional blends for pets and their people, bringing together plant support and energetic care. This work felt like a natural extension of everything I had been learning and experiencing.
Because to me, it was never just about behaviour.
It was about the whole being — body, energy, and emotional safety.
Then in 2023, I felt the next clear nudge. It was time to go all in.
I lovingly released the dog walking side of my business and stepped fully into energy healing, education, and deep support for sensitive animals and their humans.
Within the first two years of focusing fully on PETs, I have supported nearly 500 animals. Every single one confirming what my soul has always known.
This is the work I am here to do.
Christine Barfield is the Intuitive Pet Healer, Communicator and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet. She has a deep love for rescue dogs and has made helping them her life’s work.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Looking for support for you and your pet? Download the Energy Bundle
When we adopt a rescue dog or support a dog with anxiety, it is natural to focus on what they have been through. We tell their story.
“He’s a rescue.”
“She has separation anxiety.”
“He went through so much.”
And while these things may be true, sometimes without realizing it, we keep our dogs living inside that story.
Dogs live in the present moment. They do not sit and replay yesterday the way we do. They respond to what is happening right now. They respond to the energy in the room. They respond to our nervous system.
They feel what we believe about them.
When we constantly identify them by their past or their struggles, their nervous system keeps responding to that familiar signal. Not because anything is wrong with them, but because they are beautifully sensitive and deeply connected to us.
This does not mean we ignore what happened. It simply means we allow space for who they truly are.
There is a subtle but powerful shift between saying, “My dog has trauma,” and saying, “My dog is healing.”
Between saying, “He can’t be alone,” and gently reframing it to, “My dog is learning to feel safe when I leave.”
Language carries energy. Belief carries energy.
When we start seeing our dogs as healing and growing, we create space for their nervous system to soften, regulate, and build trust at their own pace.
What happened matters. But it does not have to define their future.
Healing does not happen by denying the past. It happens by meeting them gently in the present.
And sometimes, the shift begins with us.
Christine Barfield is the Intuitive Pet Healer, Communicator and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet. She has a deep love for rescue dogs and has made helping them her life’s work.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Looking for support for you and your pet? Download the Energy Bundle
We live in a world that values quick fixes. Quick results. Quick answers. Quick solutions when something feels uncomfortable or out of balance.
But healing, real healing, does not work that way.
Our dogs and cats remind us of this every day.
Many pet parents reach a point where they feel confused or discouraged. Their pet seems anxious, restless, withdrawn, reactive, or simply not themselves. They have tried training, routines, enrichment, and calming tools, yet something still feels unresolved.
Often, what is happening beneath the surface is not a behavior problem. It is a nervous system that has not fully settled into calm and trust.
Healing does not happen the moment calm is introduced. It happens when calm and trust are felt, again and again, over time.
Dogs and cats are deeply sensitive beings. They do not respond to logic or timelines. They respond to energy, consistency, and emotional cues. Even in loving homes, pets can carry stress from changes in routine, emotional tension, past experiences, subtle overstimulation, and our own overwhelm.
Their bodies need time to release what they are holding. No amount of doing more can rush that process.
One of the most misunderstood parts of healing is that it is not linear. There may be calm days followed by more difficult ones, moments of progress followed by periods of stillness. This is not regression. It is integration.
As dogs and cats begin to relax, they may surface emotions that were previously held beneath the surface. That release requires patience and gentleness. The body must learn that it can trust the calm.
Pets are natural mirrors. They often feel our stress before we speak and sense when we are rushing or trying to control outcomes.
When we are unsettled, they may become unsettled too. When we soften, slow down, and ground ourselves, they often follow.
This is not about blame. It is about awareness.
Our pets are not asking us to be perfect. They are inviting us to be more in the present moment.
Support does not always come from more tools or strategies. Healing often deepens when we slow our own nervous system, create calming rhythms, offer quiet companionship, and meet our pets with patience rather than pressure.
Energetic support can gently assist this process, helping both pets and humans return to a sense of calm and trust.
Dogs and cats do not rush healing. They trust timing. They move when they are ready. They release when it feels right.
Healing is not something to push through. It is something to grow into. When we allow calm, trust, and compassion to lead, healing unfolds naturally for them and for us.
Christine Barfield is an Intuitive Pet Healer and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance, and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Need Help with your new dog? Download the Welcome Home Guide
Christmas and the holiday season can be such a beautiful time. A time to gather with family, to celebrate love, tradition, and connection. And at the heart of it all, are our pets, who are very much part of our family too.
While the holidays bring joy, laughter, and togetherness, they can also carry stress, busyness, and sometimes even quiet grief. Our pets feel all of it. They absorb the shifts in our energy, mirroring both the excitement and the overwhelm we may be holding inside.
This season is a gentle reminder that our pets are always reflecting us. They meet us where we are and offer unconditional love, often grounding us when life feels a little too full.
The holidays are a perfect time to slow down and deepen your connection with them. Take a moment to pause. Sit with them. Breathe. Be fully present. When you ground yourself in the moment, you invite your pet to do the same, creating a shared sense of calm, safety, and peace.
Sometimes the greatest gift you can give your pet is not something you place under the tree, but your presence, your awareness, and your heart.
Christine Barfield is an Intuitive Pet Healer and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance, and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Need Help with your new dog? Download the Welcome Home Guide
The moon has fascinated humanity for centuries, not just as a celestial body but as a
powerful force influencing emotions and behaviors. For empaths, individuals who deeply feel and absorb the emotions of others, the moon’s cycles can have a profound impact on their emotional well-being. Understanding how these lunar phases affect empaths can help them navigate their feelings more effectively and maintain emotional balance.
The Unique Sensitivity of Empaths
Empaths are highly sensitive to the emotional energies around them. They often experience emotions more intensely than others and can absorb feelings from people, environments, or situations. This heightened sensitivity means that external factors, such as the moon’s phases, can significantly influence their mood and energy levels.
Empaths may find themselves overwhelmed during certain times, struggling to distinguish their own emotions from those they pick up from others. This makes understanding natural rhythms, like moon cycles, essential for emotional self-care.
Overview of Moon Cycles and Their Emotional Effects
The moon goes through several phases in a roughly 29.5-day cycle. Each phase carries distinct energies that can influence human emotions and behaviors:
For empaths, these phases can amplify their emotional experiences, making it crucial to recognize and work with these natural cycles.
How Each Moon Phase Affects Empaths
New Moon: A Time for Emotional Reset
During the new moon, the sky is dark, and the moon is not visible. This phase invites empaths to turn inward and reflect. It’s an ideal time to set emotional boundaries and intentions for the coming weeks.
Empaths might feel a quietness or emotional stillness, which can be both comforting and challenging. This phase encourages self-awareness and preparation for emotional growth.
Waxing Moon: Building Emotional Energy
As the moon grows from new to full, empaths often experience an increase in emotional energy. This phase supports motivation and the pursuit of personal goals.
However, empaths should be mindful of absorbing too much external energy during this time. Practicing grounding techniques, such as meditation or spending time in nature, can help maintain emotional clarity.
Full Moon: Heightened Emotional Sensitivity
The full moon is known for intensifying emotions. Empaths may feel everything more deeply, including joy, sadness, or anxiety. This heightened sensitivity can lead to emotional breakthroughs or overwhelm.
It’s common for empaths to experience vivid dreams or restlessness during the full moon. Using this time for emotional release, such as journaling or creative expression, can be beneficial.
Waning Moon: Releasing and Healing
As the moon shrinks back toward the new moon, empaths can focus on letting go of
emotional baggage. This phase supports healing and cleansing.
Empaths might find it easier to detach from negative emotions or situations during the
waning moon. Engaging in rituals like smudging or taking calming baths can enhance this process.
Practical Tips for Empaths to Work with Moon Cycles
Real-Life Example: Luna’s Journey with Moon Cycles
Luna, an empath, noticed her mood swings aligned with the moon phases. During the full moon, she felt overwhelmed by others’ emotions, leading to anxiety. By tracking the lunar cycle, Luna started setting clear boundaries during the new moon and practiced meditation during the waxing phase. She used the full moon to journal her feelings and the waning moon to rest and recharge. Over time, Luna gained better emotional balance and felt more in control of her sensitivity.
The Science Behind Moon Influence and Empathy
While scientific research on moon phases affecting emotions is limited, some studies suggest the lunar cycle can influence sleep patterns and mood. For empaths, who are already sensitive to emotional and environmental cues, these subtle changes may be more noticeable.
Understanding this connection encourages empaths to respect their natural rhythms and use the moon’s energy as a guide rather than a rule.
Embracing the Moon’s Wisdom
The moon serves as a gentle reminder of the cycles of life. Each phase holds its own lessons and opportunities for growth. By embracing these cycles, we can learn to navigate our emotions with grace and understanding.
As we connect with the moon, we can find strength in our sensitivity. The lunar energy can guide us in our journey of self-discovery and healing.
Final Thoughts on Navigating Emotions with the Moon
Empaths live in a world rich with emotional energy, and the moon’s cycles add another layer to their experience. By recognizing how each phase affects their feelings, empaths can develop strategies to protect and nurture their emotional health.
Tracking the moon, setting intentions, and practicing grounding are simple yet powerful tools. These practices help empaths embrace their sensitivity as a strength and find harmony within the natural flow of lunar energy.
Let’s honour our journey and the moon’s influence. Together, we can reclaim our power and live in harmony with the universe.
May the phases guide you home,
Mariam
Mariam is an Empathic Transformational Coach and Founder of Mystic Empath Guide. She helps empaths and spiritually awakened women transmute emotional sensitivity into empowered wisdom through energy mastery, Hermetic teachings, and soul alchemy. With a background in metaphysics and spiritual philosophy, Mariam integrates ancient wisdom with modern energy work to help others rise into their highest expression. She leads gatherings, workshops, and courses that awaken clarity, emotional strength, and soul alignment. Through her brand and community The Alchemical Garden, Mariam guides others to embody peace, power, and purpose in every area of their lives.
Have you ever noticed how your pet seems to sense your mood before you even say a word?
Maybe your dog quietly curls up beside you on a hard day, or your cat suddenly appears, purring softly when you’re lost in thought. These moments feel magical, but they’re also deeply natural. Our pets are constantly reading and responding to our energy.
What Is an Aura?
Every being, human and animal, has an aura, a subtle energetic field that surrounds the body. It reflects our emotions, thoughts, and even our physical health. You can think of it like a gentle glow that shifts and changes depending on what we’re feeling.
When your pet’s aura is calm, they feel grounded, open, and connected. When it’s unsettled from stress, fear, or even absorbing what’s happening in your energy you might notice changes in their behavior: pacing, hiding, barking, or clinging more than usual.
The Energetic Connection Between You and Your Pet
Our pets don’t just live with us; they live through us. They move through our energetic field every day blending with it, reading it, and often mirroring it. This is one reason why a peaceful home and a calm human presence can have such a powerful impact on their well-being.
When you feel centered, your energy sends signals of calm. When you’re scattered or stressed, your pet may respond as though something is wrong not out of disobedience, but because their sensitive system is attuned to yours.
How to Support Their Energy
One of the most loving things we can do for our pets is to care for our own energy first. When you nurture your own balance, you help them return to theirs.
Simple practices make a big difference:
● Take a few minutes each day to breathe deeply and slow down. ● Spend quiet time sitting or walking with your pet without distractions.
● Visualize a soft, golden light around both of you, gently expanding and harmonizing your auras.
You don’t need to do much, just be present. The energy of calm is contagious, and your pet will feel it.
Christine Barfield is an Intuitive Pet Healer and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Need Help with your new dog? Download the Welcome Home Guide
Pets are more than companions, they are sacred mirrors and guides, reflecting our energy and supporting us in returning to balance. Their presence reminds us of a deeper truth: we are energetic beings, and so are they. When our energy becomes scattered, tense, or misaligned, our pets often respond, helping us recalibrate without judgment.
Animals naturally live in their truth. They experience the world fully, moment by moment, and their energy invites us to do the same. By observing and connecting with them, we can learn to release distractions, tune into our own energy, and return to the flow of our soul’s natural frequency.
Here are some ways pets support human energy and soul alignment:
Energy mirroring: Animals absorb and reflect our emotional states. A restless or anxious pet may be signaling that your energy needs grounding.
Encouraging presence: A dog that nudges for a walk or a cat that seeks attention draws us into the present moment, reminding us to slow down and connect.
Emotional resetting: Quiet interactions, such as petting, listening to a purr, or simply sitting together, can soothe the nervous system and restore balance.
Teaching patience and unconditional love: Observing pets in their natural state shows us how to embody patience, acceptance, and compassion toward ourselves and others.
Inviting joy and curiosity: Pets celebrate small pleasures, inspiring us to reconnect with playful, lighthearted aspects of ourselves.
Recognizing the ways our pets respond to our energy can strengthen the bond we share with them. Paying attention to their behavior, body language, and presence helps us notice when we might need to slow down, breathe, or check in with ourselves. Our pets are not only companions, they naturally help us stay present, calm, and aware of our own energy.
By observing these signals and being mindful of our interactions, we can use their presence to create a more balanced and peaceful home for both them and ourselves.
Christine Barfield is an Intuitive Pet Healer and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Need Help with your new dog? Download the Welcome Home Guide
Bringing a rescue dog home is pure magic. It’s the moment you lock eyes with a soul who has been waiting, sometimes for years, for someone to see them. But that magic is only the beginning. The first six months with a rescue dog are both beautiful and, at times, overwhelming for everyone involved.
These early months are a sacred settling-in period. Your new companion is learning what “home” means: the sounds of the house, the rhythm of your days, and most importantly that love here is safe and lasting. Rescue dogs often arrive carrying layers of past experiences. Even when they seem calm, their nervous systems are working hard to process all the change. It can take weeks or months before their true personality shines through.
As pet parents, we go through our own transition too. There is the joy of bonding and the challenge of understanding behaviors that may not make sense right away. Patience becomes an act of love. Routine, gentle consistency, and energetic support create the container that lets trust bloom.
I know this journey well. My own rescue, Finn, taught me that the first six months set the foundation for a lifetime. Some days felt effortless; others stretched my heart wide open. Each step was worth it.
If you’re welcoming a rescue dog, remember:
Give them more time than you think they need.
Offer a calm environment and steady routine.
Seek support, whether through training, community, or energy work, when things feel heavy.
The reward is beyond words: a bond that feels fated, a companion who mirrors your growth, and the quiet joy of watching a once-uncertain soul finally exhale.
Christine Barfield is an Intuitive Pet Healer and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Need Help with your new dog? Download the Welcome Home Guide
If there is one message our pets are teaching us right now, it is patience.
Every dog and cat I have been working with lately has reminded me of this truth. Many have carried stress or anxiety for months or even years, and their journey to healing is not instant. It takes time. It takes gentleness. It takes presence.
Just like us, our pets’ patterns and behaviours didn’t form overnight. They are the result of past experiences, environments, and the energy they have absorbed along the way. And just like us, it takes time for them to unwind, feel safe, and learn a new way of being.
This is where our role as their humans becomes so important. Our patience creates the space for their healing. When we try to rush or force change, both we and our pets end up frustrated. But when we slow down, breathe, and stay consistent, something shifts. They begin to relax into the safety we are holding for them.
The key is presence.
Presence says, I see you. I am with you. I’m not expecting you to be anything other than who you are right now. That is when healing becomes possible not just for our pets, but for us as well.
If you are on a journey with a pet who is struggling, I invite you to pause and reflect. Notice how far they have already come. Celebrate the small moments of progress. Trust that the change will unfold in its own timing.
Patience is not passive. It is powerful. It is the love and steadiness that tells our pets: You are safe, you are supported, and we will walk this path together.
Christine Barfield is an Intuitive Pet Healer and Guide. She helps your pets find more calm, balance and connection through her Signature PETs Method. She specializes in supporting pets with stress, anxiety, and overall well being, creating a more peaceful life for both you and your pet.
Christine absolutely loves being part of Happy Healthy Women, Newmarket, ON, Trailblazer.
Want to learn more about Christine’s Work?
Visit TheFernAndTheFox.com or follow Her on Instagram & Facebook @thefernandthefox.
Most of us weren’t taught how to stay connected to ourselves. We were taught how to be liked. How to make people comfortable. How to show up for others. What we weren’t taught was… how to listen to us… to our body, to our truth, to what we need in the moment.
At some point, we learned to disconnect. We ignored our feelings, second-guessed our intuition, and told ourselves, “It’s not that big of a deal.” The more we learned to do that, the further we drifted from who we really are.
The good news is you can come back. It won’t be perfect, and it doesn’t need to take years. It starts with small choices, moment to moment, that build trust with yourself again. If you’re ready to start returning to you, here are a few simple but powerful ways to begin:
Coming back to yourself begins with honesty. Not performance. Not pretending. Not trying to “stay positive.” Just real, grounded truth.
Ask yourself:
How am I really feeling today?
What feels heavy right now?
Where am I pretending I’m okay when I’m not?
Even writing this down in a journal or saying it out loud in the mirror counts. Let your truth have a safe space to land.
You are not a machine. You have human needs. You’re allowed to feel tired, overwhelmed, or hungry for more. One way we abandon ourselves is by pushing those needs down or expecting others to meet them without ever asking.
Instead, try this:
Pause once today and ask, “What do I need right now?”
Then give yourself permission to meet that need. Whether it’s rest, water, space to cry, a walk, or saying no… honor it now. This is how you build inner trust.
Every time you say yes when you mean no, a little part of you feels dismissed. That might not seem like a big deal in each moment, but it adds up and compounds over time. Coming back to yourself means noticing when you override your gut… and choosing differently.
Try this today:
The next time something feels off, pause.
Instead of reacting out of habit, breathe and ask, “Is this a yes from my soul or from my people-pleasing?” Then choose the answer that feels peaceful, instead of pressured.
We are so hard on ourselves. We beat ourselves up for not being healed enough, not being productive enough, not getting it all right. We have to remember though, healing doesn’t happen in shame. Healing happens in love.
So today, try softening the way you speak to yourself. If your inner voice is being harsh, imagine you’re talking to a child or a best friend instead. Would you say it that way to them? Probably not. Let your self-talk become a safe place, not a battlefield.
Remember, coming back to yourself isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been… underneath the pressure, the roles, and the noise. The more you choose truth over pretending… The more you listen to your needs instead of ignoring them… The more you show up for yourself like someone who matters… The more peace you’ll begin to feel… not because everything outside is perfect, but because you’re no longer abandoning the person inside.
If this speaks to you and you want more real-time reminders like this, come join me inside Soul Speak, my private Telegram channel. It’s where I drop voice notes from the heart to help you stay grounded and connected through whatever season you’re in. 👉 Click here to join Soul Speak.
Keep leading with your light,
Rosaly Didonna
Rosaly Didonna is a Reiki Master, Spiritual Coach, and the heart behind The Purifying Place, a sacred space devoted to healing, empowerment, and soul embodiment. She holds space for women to journey inward, guiding them through deep energetic healing, soul alignment, and transformational shifts using Reiki, sound healing, Human Design, and spiritual life coaching.
Rosaly’s work is a reclamation, and an invitation to return to your truth, release what no longer serves, and rise into the highest expression of who you came here to be. Through her 1:1 soul-led coaching, she supports you in activating your inner power and embodying your divine essence fully, unapologetically, and with love.
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