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Embracing Confidence: The Power of 'Fake It Till You Make It' by Karen Vaile

Embracing Confidence: The Power of 'Fake It Till You Make It' by Karen Vaile

August 10, 2023

Imagine a life where every dream you've ever dared to dream becomes within reach, where self-doubt dissipates like morning mist, and a newfound sense of purpose propels you towards success. Confidence, the guiding force that shapes our lives and unlocks the doors to true fulfillment, holds the key to this extraordinary transformation. 

But what if you don't feel you have confidence? 

When I embarked on my journey to sobriety within Alcoholics Anonymous, I was introduced to a profound piece of advice that left an indelible mark on my life: 'fake it till you make it.' This wisdom urged me to emulate those who had successfully navigated the path to long-term sobriety and adopt their actions and mindset. Embracing this concept meant believing in myself, acting as if I had already achieved my goals, and fearlessly stepping into the person I aspired to become. Little did I know that by embodying this philosophy, my life would undergo a remarkable transformation, opening new horizons and offering a renewed sense of purpose and hope.
 
The philosophy behind "fake it till you make it" is based on the idea that our thoughts, behaviours, and actions are interconnected. By consciously adopting the mindset and behaviours of the person we aspire to become, we can create real and positive changes in our lives. The term "fake it" refers to the act of behaving as if we already possess the qualities or skills we desire, even if we haven't fully developed them yet.
 

At first glance, some people might perceive this approach as deceptive or insincere because it involves acting as if we are something we're not. However, the true essence of this philosophy lies in its ability to bring about positive transformation within us. The success is in bridging the gap between where we are and where we want to be. By thinking and acting as if we've already achieved our desired outcome, we harness the power of the mind to shape our reality and propel ourselves toward success.
Here are some practical strategies we can apply today to bridge that gap from here to there:
  1. Self-Image: "Fake it till you make it" emphasizes the importance of a positive self-image. By envisioning ourselves as capable, confident, and successful individuals, we start to build a strong belief in our own potential.

  2. Mindset Shift: Adopting the mindset of the person we want to become can influence our thoughts and beliefs. When we consistently think and affirm that we possess the qualities we desire, our subconscious mind begins to accept this as our new reality.

  3. Behavioural Change: As we "fake" the behaviours associated with the person we aim to be, we develop new habits and ways of interacting with the world. Over time, these behaviours become more natural and ingrained in our personality.

  4. Increased Confidence: As we see positive outcomes from our changed behaviour and mindset, our confidence grows. This, in turn, motivates us to take further steps toward achieving our goals.

  5. Positive Feedback Loop: The more we "fake it" and experience positive results, the more motivated and committed we become to continue our path of personal development. This creates a self-reinforcing feedback loop of improvement.

  6. Authentic Transformation: What may start as "faking" eventually leads to genuine personal growth. As we persist in embodying the traits we aspire to, they become a natural part of our identity.

It's essential to note that "fake it till you make it" does not suggest dishonesty or pretending to be someone you are not in the long term. Instead, it's a method to kickstart personal growth and create a positive shift in our lives. As we continually work on ourselves and gain real experiences and skills, the "fake" aspect diminishes, leaving behind a genuinely improved and confident version of ourselves.
In essence, understanding the philosophy behind "fake it till you make it" or "believe it to achieve it" helps us recognize that it is not about deception but rather a powerful tool for building self-confidence, changing behaviours, and unlocking our full potential for personal development and success. Remember, confidence is within your reach, waiting for you to embrace it and embody it boldly.
 
 

Karen Vaile is a Confidence Life Coach and Founder of Karen’s Coaching Korner.
She helps businesswomen create the confidence they need to take the bold action necessary to achieve all their personal and professional goals.  
Karen's mission is centred on transforming uncertainty, self-doubt and apprehension into assertiveness and decisive ambition. Through her 1:1 coaching program “Create Your Confidence” she tailors her approach to each client's unique needs helping each one to reach her fullest potential, attain her goals, embrace boldness and embody confidence and grace in every aspect of life. Karen can be reached via DM. 
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Receiving Gifts from the Universe

Receiving Gifts from the Universe

June 06, 2022

Every evening I follow the same routine - after my family is done supper and the dishes are put away I quietly sneak out the back door to take a leisurely walk around our block.

It’s my time to connect with the earth that sustains me and to process and release all the experiences of the day. Living in a temperate rainforest makes the walk especially sweet. There are so many flowers and plants to enjoy, so much nature to observe.

And as we slowly leave spring behind and move towards summer I am amazed at how things are blossoming. All the buds are opening, revealing the most beautifully coloured flowers, the trees are thick and full of leaves!

Everything that had been planted and pollinated in the spring is bearing fruit and is there for me to enjoy.

It makes me reflect on how nature is such a wonderful example of what we as human beings do. So many of us have been busy planting and nurturing our ideas, sowing our seeds of longing and desires, and preparing for a harvest.

And yet - if you are anything like me, I often don’t take the time to actually enjoy the fruit of my actions, I find myself so obsessed with the planting, so stuck in spring, that when my harvest arrives I barely notice.

Now spring is a lovely time full of new beginnings and excitement, but when we get stuck there it can be exhausting - we can not always be creating, at some point we must also enjoy the things that bloom from our creation.

I find the messages of my childhood, the expectations of my culture, and the misinterpretation of my religion have created an environment that makes it hard to receive the harvest. The messages were often filled with how my worth was tied up in how much I could give, how much I could service and sacrifice and how much I could do.

There was little to no emphasis placed on receiving, on being open to accepting the gifts the universe wanted to give. And there was definitly no attention given to the fact that sometimes we receive things that we have done nothing for - sometimes our harvest includes things we did not plant. Just as when I walk around my neighborhood enjoying the flowers and trees that I did not plant or attend to.

And so this summer my focus will be on receiving - on pulling in my harvest and sitting in gratitude for all that is coming my way.

This summer I will remember that my harvest is the gifts that the Universe is giving me and allow myself the opportunity to be filled and replenished.

Download the June Affirmation here:

June Affirmation

 

Meg is a Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, and Podcast Host (The Art Of Being H(YOU)man) that is passionate about walking with people who want more out of life than just the status quo!

She believes that life doesn’t have to work out exactly the way we think it “should” in order to be enjoyed and that people don’t have to be perfect in order to be loved.

She believes that we all have the voice of truth inside of us but sometimes it can be hard to hear. And most importantly that we must live between the tension of accepting the things we cannot change and taking massive action on the things we can!

Meg creates spaces where women can slow down and process all the things that are influencing and controlling their lives - their everyday thoughts, emotions, and the stories they have been telling themselves.

Spaces where they can look at their inner world, gain valuable insight and then reclaim their personal authority, and make conscious decisions that transform the way they experience their lives!

Through one on one coaching, group coaching and workshops Meg helps women show up in the world with more love, and less ego, more compassion, and less judgment, more vulnerability, and less shame, more emotional agility and less fear!

Meg lives in BC with her husband of 22 years, two teenage boys and their little dog Charlie.

To learn more about Meg visit her website www.megheppner.com

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