I saw this quote by the awesome Brendon Burchard on Instagram today that I LOVED, really resonated with, and felt called to share:

"When you are standing in your full power, you are not a complainer."

Ohhhhh Friend! This sparked so much for me as I thought back to the days where I used to BATHE myself in a Victim Mentality. Ever been there? Maybe you're like:  "I'm there right now and everything sucks". If so, you're not alone - but you should definitely read on!

A victim mentality refers to a state of mind in which a person feels helpless and as though the world is against them.

I was DEEP in this. So deep, that I would sit at my little pity party for one blaming this, that and all the things for why my life wasn't going as planned. As you can imagine - the only things that ever came of those days were more friction and frustration. Then - I got coaching, did some personal work, and learned how to shift that mindset into one that empowers me. That's when things opened up and everything started working IN my favor.

Here are 6 big things I learned that helped me make the shift...and a little further down, a resource that you'll love if you're feeling the need to step into a more empowered state as well.
 

1. Being a victim is a LEARNED HABIT that most of us grow up with.

2. There are many ways to be a victim, and if we do it in one area of our lives, chances are we do it in others.

3. To break free of the Victim Mentality takes work, and requires an attitude shift - but it's certainly possible.

4. Being a victim is not our natural way of being. It is not abundant, life-giving or free.

5. Victim Mentality is something we accept for ourselves and we can decide to live by a higher standard.

6. As long as we accept it, there will be those out there accepting that we are the victim as well, and strengthening our victim mindset right along with us.

The thing is, if we are comfortable in the Victim Mentality, we will use it so many ways when it comes to our physical, mental and emotional well-being. It becomes a crutch that actually hinders our growth.

The good news is - overcoming it and stepping into an empowered state will serve you, your relationships, your health and your business SO much more.

Oh, and that resource I promised you: One of my favorite pieces from Dr. Wayne Dyer that gives a simple way to start de-victimizing yourself. Take 5 minutes to listen to this and feel instant freedom - The Art of the Shrug.

In Happiness & Health,

Natalie Colalillo

Founder & CEO Happy Healthy Women

Instagram: @happy_healthy_nat

Making decisions is one of the most empowering things we can do for ourselves. In fact, feeling truly satisfied with our life starts with making intentional decisions. 

When we operate on autopilot we are living based on decisions that we have made in the past. From simple things such as the way we like our coffee, to more complex things like who we spend our time with–once we repeat these things several times, they start to become “our usual”. 

This is really great when it comes to healthy habit formation because removing the decision making actually keeps us on track. We decide once and then begin to repeat the same thing intentionally each day until the action becomes automatic.

What we need to be cognisant of is the fact that living based on decisions we made in the past might not be conducive to the life we want to live now.

The things we started out doing on purpose can become unintentional over time and then we start to see unintentional results in our lives. 

When you think about changing something in your life (which involves making a decision), what comes up for you?

Do you have thoughts like:

• I have to do this
• This is just the way it is
• This is what I’m used to
• I’ve made that decision already, there's no turning back now
• This won’t make a difference, so why bother?
• I don’t want to let them down

Take a moment to consider if these thoughts are true. They may feel true. Especially if they have become ingrained in your belief system by thinking them repeatedly for several months or years.

When we are young, our parents, teachers and other trusted adults make most of our decisions for us. In this way we are conditioned by the people around us and by society. We take on values and ideologies and start living from a place of “shoulds”. The result is that we begin to perceive our options as  limited, almost like living in a bubble.

Everything starts being filtered through our worldview and if we don’t take a moment to stop and see the bigger picture, then we miss the opportunity to see a world of limitless possibilities.

Taking a step back gives us the space to think consciously about our lives and our decisions, so that we can start living with intention. 

Are you open to taking your power back?

To start making decisions with thought and deliberation?

If the answers is yes, here are some power thoughts to get you started:

• I have a choice
• It’s okay to make changes in my life
• I get to choose what I believe
• Making decisions for myself is not selfish
• When I make decisions that are right for me, the other people in my life benefit

I challenge you to do a life audit. To look at each area of life and ask yourself, “would I choose this again”.

You may be surprised at how satisfied you are with your life just the way it is.

Whitney Coupland is a Certified Health and Life Coach. In her coaching practice, Whitney works with those who want to improve their health while still enjoying their life. You can connect with Whitney by visiting her website WhitneyCoupland.com, booking a free consultation or finding her on Instagram @WhitneyCoupland_

I talk about this often - in our masterminds, on coaching calls, on LIVES - The importance of building a BRAND and not just a business if you're wanting to grow and scale a company. I know - sounds a little obvious! However, when you really dig into the mindset piece around this, it makes a huge difference in so many ways, but especially to your bottom line. 

Here are 4 reasons why business owners need to focus on building a brand, not just a business:

1. The WHY of the organization.  When operating as a business, you're operating as an organization that markets a product, service or opportunity. When operating as a BRAND, your business has a deeper reason to keep moving forward and create an impact. The WHY of your business shines through, and gives customers something to connect to. It also allows your business to make an impact.

2. Your brand is the reason people buy - or don't. A brand builds connection and a reason for people to agree or disagree. Yes - color, logos, and websites all have a role to play in this, but more importantly, its about people connecting to your messaging, your mission and your values. A brand gives your business personality, heart and a reason for people to connect.  It's a little like online dating. A profile may look great - but if on a first date there's no commonality, no connection, no spark...there likely won't be a second!

3. Brands get noticed, businesses get ignored. Have you ever followed a business or someone IN business that posted offer, after offer, after offer? Chances are your following didn't last long and you got bored of being sold to.

Brands are about connection, connection, connection. The more a brand focuses on connecting, the less they have to make "offers". There's a different vibe when a company is focused on the best for their clients versus when they are simply looking to make more sales. When a brand goes above and beyond to care about the customer experience, they build loyalty and that goes much further than promotional content.

4. Brands allow businesses to pivot. You and your business are ever changing, and a brand builds a foundation so that you're able to shift products and services while still maintaining a consistent message and feel. When you DO pivot in your business after you've built a solid brand, fans will continue to buy what you produce. These are your Super Fans.

There's definitely way more to consider around building a brand, and it's why we have an entire session set aside for this in The Beautiful Business Program. It's essential for the growth and scalability of an organization.

If you've been feeling a little like "I can't find clients", or "we need to make more sales"...it may be an indication that your business could use a shift in focus toward building a brand, connection and customer loyalty.

And yes, I'm always here to help those wanting to take their business to the next level. Let's connect!

In Happiness & Health,

Natalie Colalillo

Founder & CEO Happy Healthy Women

Instagram: @happy_healthy_nat

Character strengths are the building blocks of positive psychology approaches (Peterson & Seligman, 2004). Instead of focusing on one’s shortcomings and dysfunction, an awareness is cultivated of using and developing their strengths to stimulate the helpful behaviour and attitude required for productive change (Niemiec, 2017).

Although others also count, the character strengths of creativity, perseverance, forgiveness, self-regulation, and hope play a determining role in successful and sustainable habit change.

#1 - Hope

Firstly, the motivation to pursue a habit change is inherently based on hope, and optimistic future-mindedness that provides sufficient incentive and expectation of a reward to invest effort in achieving it. 

#2 – Perseverance

By definition, habits are routines or patterns of behavior that are ingrained and difficult to change. Most often, they are attached to their own incentives, such as avoiding discomfort or pain, seeking distraction, and looking for external validation. Therefore, success requires perseverance and the ability to moderate and control one’s impulses and emotions (self-regulation).

Persistence in overcoming obstacles and restarting after failures is the mainstay of any worthwhile change process, while resisting the urge to give up and revert back to one’s old ways.

#3 - Forgiveness

Acceptance and forgiveness of one’s weaknesses is vital when facing and managing setbacks, relapses, and sticking points. Without the capacity of self-forgiveness, building and sustaining new habits is onerous and less likely to succeed. In other words, self-forgiveness gives us the capacity to pick ourselves up, face criticism, and defy the odds.

#4 - Creativity

While other character strengths may also play a role in building healthy habits such as perspective, honesty, zest, kindness, gratitude, and social intelligence, the fourth and final strength highlighted here as integral to most instances of personal change is creativity. This means to be adaptive and inventive when identifying and trying new solutions to old, established problems, like unhelpful habits. By seeing and doing things in different ways, one can circumvent or break through sticking points and blocks and “trick” the mind to adopt the new habit more readily.

Recommendations

By doing a few simple exercises every day, a person can develop the character strengths that will enable them to form and sustain habits more successfully. Research has shown that regular practice of just one activity from the list per character strength will have a significant impact on each character strength, with an amplified effect on habit formation.

Hope

1. Write your successful movie script – Imagine yourself exactly where you want to be in 10 years, engage all your sense, and write about your experiences.

2. Curtail news intake – Minimize distraction and negative influences to create a quiet and constructive space of possibilities. 

3. Visualize your successes – Picture achieving something you have dreamed of for a long time, how it will feel at that moment, and how your life will change as a result.

Perseverance

1. Read about a role model – Choose a real, historical or contemporary person who you have admired and followed. Learn about their strengths, habits, and values, and apply as much as you can to your own life. 

2. Learn to make positive self-appraisals – The most common self-limiting beliefs that are holding us back from developing positive habits that lead us to our dreams are that we are not deserving, worthy, or capable of success and happiness. Practice being kinder and more appreciative to yourself, and acknowledge your strengths.

3. Repeat positive affirmations – Write short, powerful statements that articulate your vision and strengths and repeat them out loud often.

Forgiveness

1. Write down your positive qualities – Self-forgiveness is the mainstay of compassion for others and for finding the strength to pursue positive change. Don’t beat yourself down but focus on your strengths and opportunities. 

2. Put yourself in another’s shoes – The difference between sympathy and empathy is the vantage point. In empathy, we are able to sit with the other person and engage with them at their bottom while shining the light up.

3. Do compassion-focused appraisals – Don’t judge yourself and others but employ unconditional acceptance from a place of compassion and understanding.

Creativity

1. Put time aside for creative activities – Don’t just hurry from one routine or established task to another from one day to the next. Make space for something you may have wanted to do for a while but didn’t have the opportunity, patience, or courage to try.

2. Expand your knowledge in a new area – Make it a goal to learn something new every day, not just in your established areas of expertise, but in something peripheral or brand new. 

3. Explore new things in your current environment – Your surroundings are full of gems that you probably never notice. Engage mindfully with your environment and use all your senses to create new experiences, insights, and connections.

Conclusion

If you do some of these things for a few weeks, you are highly likely to notice the positive change in your character strengths of Hope, Perseverance, Forgiveness, and Creativity. Together, in harmony, your ability to introduce and sustain new habits will also increase and you will be more adaptive and resilient to changing external demands.

References

Linley, P. A., Maltby, J., Wood, A. M., Joseph, S., Harrington, S., Peterson, C., Park, N., & Seligman, M. E. P. (2007). Character strengths in the United Kingdom: The VIA Inventory of Strengths. Personality and Individual Differences, 43, 341-351. DOI: 10.1016/j.paid.2006.12.004

McGrath, R. E. (2014). Character strengths in 75 nations. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 10(5), 407–424. DOI: 10.1080/17439760.2014.888580

Niemiec, R. M. (2017). Character strength interventions: A field guide for practitioners. Boston, MA: Hogrefe.

Peterson, C., & Seligman, M. E. P. (2004). Character strengths and virtues: A handbook and classification. New York: Oxford University Press.

Swart, J. (2020). What do the character strengths of coaching students tell us? Wisdom Magazine, 2. Retrieved from URL.

Amritha is a Forensic Scientist-turned-certified Health and Habits Coach. She helps working professionals break bad habits and build new sustainable ones. They learn to stop procrastinating and take small consistent actions towards managing their time and productivity.

Amritha is enthusiastic about sharing her wisdom as a trailblazer at South Surrey, BC

Join her free Facebook group here where she answers your questions and you learn and grow with like-minded people.

Connect and chat with Amritha on FB and IG at @lifecoachap

Just over two years ago, I left a government job where I made close to $90k a year to start my own business.

At that time, I thought “Sure, I’ll need to learn a few new things but give me a year and I’ll easily be earning that again.”

Wow! Was I wrong!

I had no idea just how big the learning curve – not only in skills but in mindset – would be.

I’m not alone.

Almost every other new entrepreneur coming from corporate life that I know has gone through or is going through something similar.

According to the Dunning-Kruger effect this is normal!

The Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias that says people with a low ability at a task they are passionate about tend to overestimate their competence.

For those without former full-time entrepreneurial experience, this typically plays out like this:

You start your business with high confidence and low competence, thinking:

“How hard can it be?”

Shortly thereafter, you realize “Holy Hell Batman! This is really f*cking hard! I don’t know WTF I’m doing!” (perhaps, not in those exact words, but you get the drift) and your confidence plummets to a new low.

At this point, many entrepreneurs give up and go back to some ho hum full-time job and silently wonder what would have happened if they’d stuck with it.

But that isn’t me, and that isn’t you either!

Instead, you keep moving forward, trudging through the muck and frustration and self-doubt and failures and setbacks until, bit by bit, things start to click... 

things start to work…

you start to feel welcomed by people…

people start coming to you…

you make some real money…

and low and behold, once again you feel…

CONFIDENT!

You’ve made it out of the Valley of Despair and are now on the Slope of Enlightenment and headed toward new business Nirvana – a.k.a. the Plateau of Sustainability (cue the angels singing).

After two years of full-time entrepreneurship (and a lot of reboots), I feel like I’ve finally made it to this slope.

I’ve gotten clear on what I offer, to whom, and how I invite people to work with me in a way that aligns with who I am.

Things feel easier…

But to get to this point, I had to go through the Valley of Despair and, as Rodney Atkins sings in his famous song, “If you’re going through hell, keep on going.”

And the way to do that, like the turtle in the race with the hare, is to be consistent, to be persistent, and to keep your eye on the prize!

You got this!

June Morrow helps emerging coaches step out of isolation and into authentic connections with marketing, messaging, and communications that inspire them and their audiences.

Get her free training How to Find Clients When Social Media Isn’t Doing It For You.

Learn more at JuneMorrow.com.

One of the hardest truths to accept is that we are more powerful than we could ever imagine!

Instead, we often seem to hold on to the idea that we are not capable, that we are somehow flawed in some important way, or that we must simply submit to whatever is expected of us!

Believing those things can often keep us in situations and circumstances that are safe and comfortable. But life is meant to be more than simply safe and comfortable!

Life is meant to be explored and enjoyed, life is meant to give us the opportunity to grow and stretch, it is meant to give us the opportunity to see what the human spirit is truly capable of!

But that can only be our reality when we step into our power - when we realize that we are the authors of our story and the creators of our own experiences!

So how do we begin the journey of writing our own story?

We begin to write our own stories when we validate our feelings, experiences, needs, fears, and desires.

All too often we walk through life dismissing ourselves.

We say we ‘shouldn't’ feel a certain way, or we ‘shouldn’t’ need this or that.

We deny our fears by say hiding them by being busy and distracted.

We second guess our experiences by casting doubt on what we saw or heard - opting instead to believe the version others tell, making them feel comfortable and supported.

All this leads to living a life that doesn’t feel like ‘ours.’

So today begin to be the author of your own story, begin to check in with yourself and acknowledge what you are feeling, experiencing, needing, fearing, and desiring, begin by validating that anything that comes up for you as important information that you need in order to create the life you want to have!

“Great Stories Happen to those who can tell them” - Ira Glas

Own the fact that your life is yours to create - and as you observe your life and begin to tell your stories realize that you have the power to tell the story in a way that empowers you, that creates opportunities for you, that challenges you to be and do your best!

Your story can be a great story!!

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XOXO

Meg

Meg is a Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, blogger and Podcast Host (The Art Of Being H(YOU)man) that is passionate about walking with people who want more out of life than just the status quo!

She believes that life doesn’t have to work out exactly the way we think it “should” in order to be enjoyed and that people don’t have to be perfect in order to be loved.

She believes that we all have the voice of truth inside of us but sometimes it can be hard to hear. And most importantly that we must live between the tension of accepting the things we cannot change and taking massive action on the things we can!

Meg creates spaces where women can slow down and process all the things that are influencing and controlling their lives - their everyday thoughts, emotions, and the stories they have been telling themselves.

Spaces where they can look at their inner world, gain valuable insight and then reclaim their personal authority, and make conscious decisions that transform the way they experience their lives!

Through one on one coaching, group coaching and workshops Meg helps women show up in the world with more love, and less ego, more compassion, and less judgment, more vulnerability, and less shame, more emotional agility and less fear!

Meg lives in BC with her husband of 22 years, two teenage boys and their little dog Charlie.

To learn more about Meg visit her website www.megheppner.com

 Whether it’s taking on a project like starting a blog on a new platform or implementing a new way of eating for your health, getting started can feel overwhelming. You’ve likely heard it before: “getting started is the hardest part”. But why?

The way that we think about starting something new is very powerful. Our thoughts are what create our feelings, and because as humans we act based on emotion much of the time, those sentences running through our brains carry a lot of weight. If we allow our brains to run on autopilot, the thoughts that naturally arise may not be the ones that are best for helping us move in the direction we want to go. And so, we can end up with unintentional results. 

We want to think thoughts that elicit a feeling in our body that will have us take action toward our goals. The feeling of overwhelm is not one of those productive feelings.

So what kind of thoughts are causing such overwhelm? Things like:

I don’t know where to start

There are so many things to consider

I want to make sure I get it right

I don’t know the steps involved

This is going to be so time-consuming

Should I bother

Is it worth it

I don’t have the (tools, resources, expertise) that I need

I’m not ready

Maybe this can wait 

Let’s break these thoughts down into a few categories:

Confusion: 

Thoughts like “I don’t know” leave us feeling confused and not sure how or where to start. Confusion can lead to things like over-researching, information overload, and analysis paralysis.  What confusion doesn’t do: help us move forward with confidence. 

Some great questions to ask yourself when you are feeling confused:

What if I did know?

What is my best guess?

What would I tell a good friend in this situation?

What would my coach or mentor say?

These questions can get your brain focused on possible solutions.

Perfectionism:

Thoughts like: “there’s no point in doing this if I don’t get it right” are sign you may be on the perfectionist train. Perfectionism has it’s benefits, such as, producing quality work and doing a great job for our clients. However, it can be paralyzing and prevent us from getting our value out into the world.

Everyone has to start somewhere, and when we start something new, there will always be room for improvement. Having the courage to put yourself out there and do something new is where it begins.

Some useful thoughts to use when you are feeling like a perfectionist:

Even my B grade work has the potential to change someone’s life

Imperfection is relatable and can work in my favour 

Indecision:

We often don’t realize that when we fail to make a decision, we are in fact deciding to stay where we are. Questions like: “should i bother?”, “is it worth it?”, or “is this the right time?” can really hold us back. These thoughts provoke feelings of anxiety or even complacency, which are not useful in brining us closer to our desired outcomes. Indecision takes up mental space and sucks our energy. Give yourself a deadline, make the decision, and relief will follow.

If you find yourself in indecision, a useful thought is:

Any decision I make will give me clarity on what I truly want

Confusion, perfectionism and indecision lead to the thought “this is too much” which creates overwhelm. You may notice that you are fidgety, unfocused, or that your breathing has become shallow. These physical signs give us insight into what is going on in our brains and the types of thoughts we are thinking. 

So, what can we do about it?

1. Get in the right headspace: what thoughts would be useful in this situation? What would I need to think in order to feel motivated to start? Make sure your thoughts hold true for you. A far fetched or unbelievable thought will not elicit the emotion you are looking for.  
2. Feel into the emotion that motivates you: you will know your new thoughts are serving you when you actually feel the vibrations of motivation or excitement in your body. Hold onto this feeling and take action from this place.
3. Make a plan:  this will involve making decisions, breaking larger projects down into smaller tasks, scheduling time for each component, and committing to following through.

Starting is the hardest part, but, if we can get our brain working for us rather than against us, then we are off to the races!

Whitney Coupland is a Certified Health and Life Coach. In her coaching practice, Whitney works with those who want to improve their health while still enjoying their life. You can connect with Whitney by visiting her website WhitneyCoupland.com, booking a free consultation or finding her on Instagram @WhitneyCoupland_

1. A support network
2. Leadership training and coaching
3. To learn how to ask for, and earn more money
4. To gain experience in leadership .
5. To take strategic risks for professional growth
6. To achieve optimal wellness
   

My thoughts instantly shifted. My heart started to BURST with joy in knowing that this is what we are here for. This is what we have always been here for. This is what we do best. This is Happy Healthy Women.

As I shared these findings with our leaders, we spoke of our movement and all that we are doing to help women across the globe step into all 6 of those. We spoke about the fact that we are all needed more now than ever before. We stepped into even greater collective power.

I write this here because if you have committed to serving women in any way that relates to the above and also NEED more of the above, we invite you to lock arms with us.

As I have said time and time again, yes, we are a networking group...but we are so much more than that.

If you're curious as to what stepping into leadership with us looks like, and want to understand how it can help you and your business, we ask that you fill out this form and we will book a call to discuss.

There is a force so MASSIVE that is moving this mission forward, and there's a place for you here.

In Happiness & Health,

Natalie Colalillo

Founder & CEO Happy Healthy Women

Instagram: @happy_healthy_nat

Fact sources: fortune.com, canada,ca, rbc.com

A self-audit starts with the circle of life. The purpose is to establish where you are right now in every area of your life, what you value most, and where you want to be. When you understand and address an area that needs a major change, it means you have identified a desired outcome or goal in that area. 

We often audit work performance or expenses, but how often do we audit our life?

A life audit is carried out by The Wheel of Life exercise. It is a very common and effective technique used by professionals to help get a “helicopter view” of life areas. The Wheel of Life is also an effective tool to change habits. It also helps to overcome problems of stress by addressing the imbalances in a person’s life.

The eight most common main areas of life are:- 

Family and friends – the relationship you have and the quality and quantity of time you spend with members of your family and extended family.

Business and career – Anything related to your career, profession, business, education, and professional vision and purpose.

Health – A broad category that includes eating, fitness, pain and disease, injuries, and mental health; anything related to your body or mentality.

Finances – Anything related to your wealth, financial situation, money matters, and attitudes and beliefs about money.

Romance – The relationships you have or want to have with romantic partners.

Personal development/growth – It is about who you are, your relationship with yourself, where you see yourself in the future, and what you need to get there. It also involves your sense of guilt or fear or purpose.

Fun and recreation – Leisure activities you do to enjoy life.

Physical environment – How you perceive and experience your living, work, and other spaces that you spend time in.

All these life areas are highly interconnected. Problems in one area can spill over and affect others. For example, when having family issues, such as a struggling relationship with a spouse, it could affect one’s work, self-esteem, time, energy and relationships with their friends, with stress and health again going hand-in-hand.

Having this in mind, go over the different areas of your life listed above and determine where you are on a scale of 1 to 10. Your first number represents your current assessment of the time and attention spent on the particular area. The second number indicates the time and attention you ideally want to spend on the same life area in the future.

The difference in the numbers implies the gap that is a gauge of the priority for change in a specific area to ensure that underlying concerns and considerations are addressed and not symptoms.

Amritha is a Forensic Scientist-turned-certified Health and Habits Coach. She helps working professionals who don’t find the time for themselves or who have lost their momentum on things they want to pursue, to break bad habits and build healthy and sustainable ones to consistently achieve their goals.

Amritha is enthusiastic about sharing her wisdom as a trailblazer at South Surrey, BC

Join her free Facebook group here where she answers your questions and you learn and grow with like-minded people.

Connect and chat with Amritha on Facebook

Instagram @lifecoachap

Or write to amrithap2108@gmail.com

It's always amazing to me, how easy it is for me to self-sabotage!

How quickly I can see what is missing and point out what I am lacking!!

Unfortunately the same is true with the amount of love I believe is in my life - too often I focus on the love I think I am missing, feeling an emptiness that I assume can only be filled by the love and validation of others.

But we all know that we find the things that we are looking for - so, when we look for what is missing that is what we find.

Every time I spend my energy focusing on my perceived lack of love I build a wall that blocks out the love that is available to me!

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - Rumi

And every time I spend my energy making others responsible for making me experience the love I crave I place a burden on my loved ones that is too heavy for them to carry. (And when others place that responsibility on me it is a burden too heavy for me to carry as well!)

Things change for me when instead of looking for more evidence of missing out on love I began to break down the barriers I had built against receiving it.  I am constantly surprised at how much love my life is full of when I change my focus and when I begin to accept that I am already loved beyond belief!

Breaking down barriers starts in a surprisingly easy way!

It all starts with changing the questions that we ask!

So often we get answers we don't like because we ask questions that take us in the wrong direction.

We tend to ask:

"Why don't I deserve love?" instead of "How can I show love for myself right now?" or "Where can I see love right now?"

When we ask the question 'why don't I deserve or have love in my life' our minds simply get busy finding the answer - and the answer not beneficial! We find answers like: "I don't have love in my life because no one cares about me, or I am unlovable, or because I (fill in the blank)"

But when we ask a question like 'Where can I see love right now' we notice the kindness of a stranger, or the smile that the cashier gave us, or the small act of service a loved one did for us!

Different questions give us different answers which then allows us to see and feel different things!

So as we enter February - the month of LOVE - here is an affirmation we can use to open our hearts to the love that's already there for us to accept:

"I allow myself to feel all the love I need. I break down any barrier that I have to the love available to me!'

https://bit.ly/3Go935V

To learn more about Meg visit her website www.megheppner.com

Societal messages, both overt and subliminal, make us believe that there’s some prize for being thin and beautiful and that we should strive to meet that ideal.  Society drills this message into our heads, reinforced by the beauty, fitness, and diet industries.

To feel better in our bodies, we need to remove things from our lives that make us focus on our appearance and feel badly about ourselves—things like TV, beauty magazines, and social media feeds.

1)Get rid of your scale.  Removing the scale from my home was one of the best and most liberating things I ever did!  If this thought makes you feel too anxious, then try just taking a break from using it.  I understand this can hurt, but think of it as if you were cleaning out a wound so it can heal properly.

2) Stop using the word “fat” to describe your feelings and start articulating your real feelings.  For example, instead of saying, “I feel so fat,” you might say something like, “I feel so overwhelmed.” By acknowledging your real feelings, you’re in a better place to give yourself some compassion and realize that restricting, overeating or being “thin” are not answers. 

3) Connect with your body through movement compassionately and enjoyably.  When we continually push ourselves to go further, faster, and longer, it takes pleasure from physical activity and can leave us injured.  Skip the gym and take a walk instead.   As you walk, try to notice as many pleasant things as possible by using all your senses.  Enjoy the fresh air, sun, trees, the smell of freshly-cut grass, and the feeling of the earth under your feet.  Take your time and enjoy it!

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