February, the month of love. Valentine’s Day has passed and with it the roses are drying, the chocolates are consumed, and the jewelry is worn or it’s found a home in the jewelry box. Lovely, but all temporary things. In life we see events unfold in our personal sphere and we cannot always control it all. What we can control is how we handle it. Lead with love. How do we do this?
Remember, you are your most valuable asset and it is essential to invest in you. Take personal inventory of what you like and don’t like then show yourself compassionate acceptance. Next to grace, make an honest plan on how you can nurture yourself in all parts. Understanding the importance of developing self love and acceptance is key to moving forward in life and business. It enables you to be firm in your boundaries and to identify what is acceptable in other relationships. Love that genuinely comes from deep within automatically flows out and spreads to others. As leaders and entrepreneurs leading with love will build a stronger community.
Christie enjoyed a long career in nursing and is now pursuing her passion in self development. Wellness Haven and Health offers Life Skills Coaching, Happiness Coaching, and Neurodynamic Breathwork. Encouraging self empowerment for all clients with a focus on the seven principles of wellness.
How do you stand out in a world saturated with images? As business owners, we have to navigate the strange digital space where young girls eating spaghetti on camera go viral while we struggle showing up in a professional and engaging way. For many of us who are used to be behind the camera, the prospect of putting ourselves in the spotlight can be downright daunting.
As a seasoned portrait photographer specializing in headshots and glam portraits for camera-shy women, I'm in awe of the transformative power of embracing one's unique beauty. Time after time I watch people going from shaking at the idea of being photographed to standing up a little taller, a little more confident at the end of the process. At the risk of sounding pretentious, I’ll say that professional photography can truly change your life.
So what’s the significance of capturing individuality in headshots and how it can be a game-changer for those who prefer to stay behind the scenes?
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In headshots and personal branding portraits, the goal is not to conform to societal expectations but to celebrate the unique features and qualities that make you one of a kind. From the subtle lines etched by time and every gray hair to the captivating stories reflected in the eyes, the confidence of embracing these distinctive elements is what sets you apart.
Personal branding journey is a long one, and it takes both time and money to nail it down. When you’re ready, hiring an expert to help you discover your USP (unique selling point) is a great investment. If you’re not ready yet, you can simply ask your friends: what am I really good at? Why do they like being around you?
People might have different answers and different perspectives, but it will surely give you some food for thought. You can get clarity on what qualities to focus on, and how to bring them forward through imagery and copy.
Your personal brand is an extension of who you are – your story, your values, and the essence of what makes you you. Capturing individuality in portraits for your business goes beyond showcasing a polished exterior; it's about conveying authenticity, relatability, and the genuine essence of your personality.
Figuring out your USP can be a revelation – especially if you don’t like being on camera. Knowing you don’t have to act or pretend to be someone you’re not is liberating. When you’re aligned with your authenticity, showing up online – and on camera – suddenly becomes fun instead of a burden. You can see personal branding portraits as an opportunity to step into the spotlight on your own terms. It's not about conforming to a preconceived notion of beauty; it's about boldly asserting one's identity and owning every facet of it.
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As a logical thinker, I always try to understand the underlying reasons behind people’s feelings and actions. As a photographer, understanding why some individuals shy away from the camera is crucial in creating a comfortable and empowering photography experience. At the end of the day, not liking photos of oneself is rarely just a matter of personal preference – more often, it’s just the tip of the iceberg.
Here are some common deep-seated reasons that contribute to camera shyness.
Distorted Self-Perception: Many people struggle with their self-image feeling like they don't meet societal standards of beauty. Comparing yourself to others and the fear of being judged can be difficult to battle if one struggles with their self-esteem.
Perfection Paralysis: We can be unnecessarily hard on ourselves trying to live up to unrealistic expectations of being perfect. Then, we get caught in a trap of excuses that we’re waiting for the perfect moment that is unlikely to come. “When I will lose a few pounds…”, “When I’m less busy…”
Negative Reinforcement: Sadly, many of us grew up in less than perfect environment where we were made to question our looks and self-worth. A random mean comment made in high-school can be more detrimental than we realise – something to unpack and to deal with. If not for photography, then for your own well-being.
“Cheese” orders: please don’t make your kids smile and say “Cheese!” when they don’t want to! Parents forcing their kids to perform on camera is one of the most common reasons for people to develop a distaste for being photographed in adulthood.
For two years, I’ve been running a photography campaign – the 40 Over 40 project – where I photographed women 40+ of all backgrounds, shapes and sizes. As a part of the process, I took interviews asking about their experience of being over 40 and how they felt about the societal beauty norms.
The answers I got were unanimous: the outdated beauty standards have plagued society for far too long. The cookie-cutter expectations of what is considered beautiful have left countless people feeling inadequate and uncomfortable in their own skin. The tide is shifting, albeit ever so slowly, to embrace beauty in a more inclusive way, accepting that it does not exist in any specific shape or size. As a photographer, I see my mission to help the change, challenging the outdated norms and redefining beauty through my lens.
As a photographer who has worked extensively with camera-shy individuals, I've witnessed the profound impact that embracing oneself can have on self-esteem and confidence. It's not just about taking a pretty picture; it's about sparking a transformative journey towards self-acceptance.
In a world that often values conformity over individuality, personal branding portraits serve as a visual rebellion. It's a statement that says, "I am more than meets the eye, and I refuse to be confined by outdated beauty standards." By taking sides against societal norms, we can provoke a positive change in how beauty is perceived and celebrated.
IMAGE: Hilda Gan – RN, MHSc, CHRL - President and Chief People Officer of People Bright Consulting
The Empowering Experience of a Photo Session Done Right
So, how does one go from camera-shy to camera-confident? The answer lies in the collaborative and empowering experience of a professional photoshoot where your X factor – your USP or your superpower if you will – takes the central stage.
If there is one important thing that will truly determine the success of your photo session, it’s your confidence and trust in your photographer. Everyone’s process is different. I personally believe that the factors below are essential pieces of the puzzle, where the photo session itself is just one part:
Consultation: a planning session before the photoshoot to discuss your personal brand, your story, and your vision sets the tone for a personalized and meaningful photography experience.
Wardrobe styling: your fashion choices help expressing your X factor, however not everything that looks good photographs as well. It’s a big relief to know that the outfits you’ll bring will help you look your best.
Hair and Makeup: for camera-shy people, it’s a gamechanger. Natural or glammed up, it’s all about making you feel more confident and camera-ready.
Guided selection: a step often overlooked, the process of selecting your images is a critical part. Being able to compare images side by side and having a second opinion from the artistic perspective ensures that you will make the best choices.
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In a world where individuality is often overshadowed by societal norms, personal branding portraits offer a unique opportunity to reclaim one's narrative and capitalize on your X factor.
To those who shy away from the camera, I invite you to challenge the status quo. Step into the spotlight, not as a conformist to outdated beauty standards, but as a trailblazer redefining what it means to be truly beautiful. Your story is waiting to be told, and through the lens of professional portraits, you have the power to tell it authentically, boldly, and unapologetically.
Veronica is the owner of Vongue Art Photography - a full-service portrait studio in Toronto specializing in headshots and personal branding. Veronica's mission is to help camera-shy professionals look and feel their best in photos, and capture you the way you want to be seen. You deserve to have portraits that make you feel beautiful and proud!
It's an unsettling sensation, feeling like you're out of your depth, as though you're pretending to be someone you're not. Imposter Syndrome (IS) is that nagging voice that whispers, "You shouldn't be here. Everyone will figure out you don't belong." The irony is, often this sensation doesn't stem from others' judgment but from our internal expectations and ego.
The Myth of "Should"
Central to imposter syndrome is the notion of "should." I should know this. I should be better. I should have achieved more by now. These statements reveal more about our expectations than about our actual competencies or the reality of the situation.
When we're starting in any new field, be it a job, hobby, or life change, there's an intrinsic period of learning. We're beginners, and there's an entire journey ahead filled with mistakes, lessons, and growth. Yet, our ego doesn't always let us comfortably inhabit that beginner space. We want to skip ahead to the part where we're experts, competent and confident.
The Ego's Fear of Being a Beginner
The ego is all about maintaining a sense of identity and pride. It doesn't like the feeling of being "lesser than" or inexperienced. Consequently, when we find ourselves in a position of learning or when we're out of our comfort zone, the ego panics. It tells us we're frauds and that we're not good enough.
Karen Vaile is a Confidence & Life Coach and Founder of Karen’s Coaching Korner.
She helps businesswomen create the confidence they need to take the bold action necessary to achieve all their personal and professional goals.
Karen's mission is centred on transforming uncertainty, self-doubt and apprehension into assertiveness and decisive ambition. Through her 1:1 coaching program “Create Your Confidence” she tailors her approach to each client's unique needs helping each one to reach her fullest potential, attain her goals, embrace boldness and embody confidence and grace in every aspect of life. Karen can be reached via DM.
Karen is happy to be a Happy Healthy Women Toronto, ON Trailblazer.
Everyone taking a writing course has heard the phrase, Show, Don’t Tell.
It can grate on a person. Personally, I don’t worry about it anymore. I say that at the risk of frustrating you even further – with my apologies. This might be the best tip I ever received from a favourite university professor: “Read good writing and you will absorb the skills by osmosis.”
In her book House By The Sea, May Sarton says, “Every writer has to develop a thick skin.” While I promote that focussing on positive and uplifting feedback will allow any chaff to fall away (paraphrasing and agreeing with Julia Cameron), we, as writers, must also make choices with the comments we receive. Be strong enough to allow all feedback that fails to notch perfectly into our ideas for writing to fall on deaf ears when we are finding our voice and developing our confidence. Writing, for me, if I’ve learned anything from my writing style, is a muscle that can be toned, built, and made stronger by working out regularly. Find your friendly readers who read the genre and style you write in, and teach them how to give you feed-forward comments (the kind that encourage and excite you to continue in your craft). Remember Kurt Vonnegut’s wisdom, “If you open your writing to the window of the world trying to please everyone, your writing will come down with pneumonia.” Know who your audience is and write for them.
When “show, don’t tell” irks you or leaves you confused, take heart, it is one of the most frustrating things to try to explain in words. I must show you, so how do I do that?
At the risk of hubris, I am going to attempt to show with a personal writing sample:
Telling: I spend too much time distracted and not present. I reject the demand to follow external dictates obediently and refuse medical advice. I’m a rebel. I focus on what’s in front of me. I seek a comfortable way to hold my pen. 42 words
Showing: All this conjecture on my past mistakes creates endless rabbit holes and diversions from this present moment. This moment tells me a trajectory demands a follower, and just as I jumped off the factory assembly line of medicine, I can, with a mind on the moment, choose a path I set for myself. The challenge is to keep the minutiae of life at bay and maintain a corner of my mind on the cool air on my face, my feet in their slippers touching the floor, and my hand holding this pen in a way my 63-year-old body tolerates. 95 words
I now admit I am second-guessing myself if I am really showing in the longer sample above. You tell me – where have I shown, and where are the telling statements? What have I shown you, or what can you deduce from the showing example that isn’t in the telling example? Showing invites a reader to make their deductions and conclusions.
Remember that telling is also a vital part of some writing, for certain characters for the writer’s intent. Yet showing can increase reader engagement and can stop a reader in their tracks to ponder some new enlightenment that would not have passed through to their consciousness if they were told to believe it. The best writing shows a path, a new way of thinking, or how a complex character struggles to make it through the day. Showing allows your readers to draw upon their own experience and meld it with your characters, or root for the villain when they are shown his or her backstory.
It’s like the playground teeter-totter, some showing, some telling. Now, what and how do you include more showing? One clue is the word count, but not always. Showing will usually make the writing more accessible and gripping, increasing its ability to convey a message.
Here are my top five tips for Show, Don’t Tell:
Tip #1. Dialogue, which is probed in depth in my Author #46 resource article. The dialogue tags scolded, whispered, and shouted all show the speaker's various states of mind. The action and body language of the speakers further shows the reader more about the characters in the scene. Crafting dialogue is a great tool to show when a character is angry and not just tell the reader.
Telling: “My mom was angry.”
Showing: “Rusti Lee-Anne Lehay, you will tell me the truth this instant. Did you destroy that classroom?” She glared at me without blinking. I dared not look away.
You can reveal a huge amount of backstory, create curiosity in a few words, show the character and the speakers' feelings, and convey the scene's mood.
Tip #2. Utilize all the senses. Not only is this a great tool for showing, but everyone is a different kind of learner; some are visual, many are auditory, fewer are kinaesthetic and even fewer are gustatory or olfactory. When you use language that brings in the five senses, you are engaging the reader to reach into their sensing and can evoke their memories and past sensations and bring them into the moment you create on the page. You want the readers not just to intuit what is happening but to smell, touch, taste, hear, and see the world of your characters.
Telling: The smoke alarm woke him.
Showing: Bolting up to a sitting position, groggy and momentarily confused, he identified the blaring whistle of the kitchen smoke detector. Running downstairs, coughing on the smoke floating through the kitchen doorway, he found his mother cooking, confused at her son’s anger and asking him, “What is that noise?”
We don’t need to see him getting out of bed or the room, as we can imagine that middle action. The mother’s dialogue hints at mental illness or dementia. His anger can leave you, concluding this isn't the first time or that his anger erupts out of fear, frustration, or responsibility. You choose. The writing doesn’t tell you everything but shows you enough to make your conclusions and draw you into wanting to know more.
Tip #3. Make your verbs, adverbs, and adjectives work hard to describe scenes.
Telling: My son’s father played the guitar.
A basic sentence delivering information. There is no emotion, no real sight.
Showing: My son’s father sensuously (carefully, gently, lovingly) cradled the wide-hipped Ovation hussy in his lap, his fingers alternated from plucking single strings to open-handed slapping all six to create a percussion of melodious chords vibrating through the blaring speaker.
The basic information is amplified by sight, specific verbs and adjectives to modify sound, and maybe even a bit of emotion. Did you catch the word that communicates a feeling? Discuss carefully. Does this passage need the adverb? Does sensuously add anything to the showing? Or does it add too much?
The only concrete time I have found an adverb that completely changes the meaning of the verb it modifies is this sentence: “The boy’s arm was severed. The boy’s arm was partially severed.” A gross graphic, tragic example, I know. I welcome anyone to find me a better adverb example.
Description with adjectives can be overdone, and the clue there is when it sounds like a witness report instead of a story. “He had brown, shaggy, shoulder-length hair in a black leather jacket with silver buckles, in Levi faded jeans and black cowboy boots with silver spurs.”
Tip #4. Be just a little bit obscure with enough exactness to allow the reader to pull the picture together.
If you think to tell, “I felt like this only once before,” and want the reader to guess what the feeling was like, you will most likely lose them. Sit down, focus, and describe the feeling and the scenario that created that feeling. Just know that books that show everything can be exhausting, allowing no time to relax into being told what is going on. Balance the description with some expository writing. ( I think I will ask AI for some book examples that show almost everything and books that tell almost everything and still have gained some notoriety.)
Telling: I felt tired.
Showing: I gasped for breath; my legs felt starved of air, and the forty-pound pack was biting into my shoulders and hips. Would these switchbacks never end?
There is a great book called Self-editing for Fiction Writers by Renni Browne and Dave King, and I personally love Craft in the Real World: Rethinking Fiction Writing and Workshopping by Matthew Salesses. He includes 34 revision exercises that are invaluable.
Tip #5 Develop your setting. What are your characters doing in the setting, why are they there, and how are they interacting with their setting? Can your readers picture themselves where your character is in the scene? Give them enough, but not so much that they can’t see their own idea of the mountain.
Telling: She hiked up the mountain trail.
Showing: She tightened the hip and shoulder straps, puffing around the switchbacks with steep drop-offs, knowing a loose pack swaying at the wrong moment could throw her off balance and plummet her over the edge. She pulled her gloves on, fighting the frosty morning air.
What do you see in the showing that wasn’t in the telling?
Anton Chekhov illustrates “Show, Don’t Tell” best: “Don’t tell me the moon is shining. Show me the glint of light on broken glass.”
One more random example.
Telling: It was a cold day to be hungry. (statement)
Showing: Shivering, she crumpled up the paper and gathered some dry twigs, adding the tinder to the tiny flame; she anticipated the welcomed warmth after a day tramping in the snow, hoping one of her traps yielded something for supper. (showing, in a run-on sentence, mind you, but showing)
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After completing the above, I asked AI to Illustrate in great detail the top five tips for “Show, Don’t Tell” in creative writing. This is what it delivered and it is unedited:
"Show, don't tell" is a common phrase in creative writing that means that instead of simply stating what's happening or what the characters are thinking or feeling, the writer should use descriptive language and action to show the reader. This technique makes the writing more engaging and allows the reader to experience the story more fully. Here are the top five tips for "show, don't tell" in creative writing:
1. Use sensory details: Instead of telling the reader that a character is happy, show them by describing the way the character smiles, laughs, or moves. Use sensory details like smells, sounds, and textures to help the reader imagine the scene.
2. Use action: Instead of telling the reader that a character is angry, show them by describing the way the character slams doors or clenches their fists. Use action to help the reader understand the character's emotions.
3. Use dialogue: Instead of telling the reader what the characters are thinking or feeling, use dialogue to show it. Let the characters express their emotions through their words and actions.
4. Use metaphor and symbolism: Instead of telling the reader that a character is sad, show them by using a metaphor or symbol to represent the character's emotions. For example, a character might be described as a "wilting flower" to show their sadness.
5. Use pacing: Instead of telling the reader that a scene is tense, show them by using pacing to create suspense. Use short, choppy sentences to build tension, and longer, flowing sentences to release it.
Remember, "show, don't tell" is all about engaging the reader's senses and emotions, so use descriptive language and action to create a vivid and immersive story.
**End of AI-generated text.**
Okay, I admit, I am a little envious and chagrined that I neglected to mention pacing. I do love talking about the variety of sentence structure and length that build a rhythm into the text and create urgency or a lull.
When is “Telling" a preferred technique?
Telling is cutting corners but is sometimes necessary to achieve your objective. There are times to expose an aspect of the plot quickly, spell out a character's motivation, or offer a big reveal that leads to a rise in action, a character shift where complexity requires you to show rather than tell. The beginning of stories might require some telling to arrive at the hook that draws the reader. I like novels like that and others, I give them 50-75 pages to hook me. After that, I will allow myself to put the book down. There are too many good books, and life is too short to waste time with poorly written books.
As stated above, it is all about balance. Do some telling, some showing, and write. If you worry about breaking rules or not meeting some externally imposed guidelines, your words will shy away from landing on the screen or page. If your writing intrigues and pulls in your audience, definitely stop worrying. Remember, writing rules are often like grandmotherly advice. Take what you can use and apply, what fits your strategic objectives for your narrative, and store away the rest when and if it ever becomes useful to you. In a first draft, you are often still finding out what your theme is, who your characters are, and what conflicts and triumphs they will have. You can practice writing, and it doesn’t have to take eight years like a medical degree; practice with dedication like the ukulele
Resource Article on Dialogue: Click here.
Debunking the 10,000- Hour myth: Click here.
Rusti L Lehay, a global editor and book and writing coach, created over 40 articles guiding writers to authordom. Witnessing writers find and speak in their own voice to serve the real boss, the audience, not the editor, is one of Rusti’s greatest joys. She offers bi-monthly online writing STAY-Treats and monthly lounges and teaches weekly creative writing classes. Her primary mission is to inspire, provide value and make writing fun and easy.
In 2021 I made the decision to leave my full-time corporate job and to dive into the exciting world of entrepreneurship! I was 33 and just about to wrap up my maternity leave, my son was 18 months old.
This decision came with a ton of risks - but even more rewards. I could have easily decided to stay for the stable pay, the benefits, pension, etc. But that is not what my heart and soul wanted.
That is not what I wanted for my growing family.
That first year was HARD! I failed way more times then won. I invested more money into myself than I brought in. I went against logic time and again. My husband was not 100% on board. Can anyone relate? But, I believed in myself and that belief rubbed off on those around me. I kept going. I kept growing. Persistence is a trait that every successful entrepreneur has had to
ingrain into themselves.
This is where the magic lies. Going against logic. Doing the uncommon. And getting really, really uncomfortable.
If I wanted to live a common life, I would have stayed at my corporate job. But I always knew that wasn’t what I wanted. I always knew I was meant for big things. I think most people have that feeling within them, but not many have the courage to act.
It was towards the end of 2021 that I found my place at the coaching company that I have coached through for the past 2 ½ years. It was that investment that changed everything for me. Again, against all logic - I was broke, in debt and pregnant again. But I knew something needed to change. I took another leap of faith that finally paid off!
In 2022, I was so close to 6-figures…. Like inches off. But there were more lessons to learn - more growing that I needed to do!
2 years later, I more than 4X my income and earned more than I would have if I had climbed up the corporate ladder.
Everything that got me to over 6-figures is not exactly what most would say is the logical way. The lessons that I have learned and continue to learn, including continuing to go against logic will be what takes me to 7-figures and beyond. But, I still have to change. What got me where I am now will not get me to my next goal.
What it actually takes to achieve your goals, to multiply your income and to live the life you may have once only had a pipe dream of is a complete recreation of yourself, your beliefs and your habits. It is not working harder. I repeat… IT IS NOT WORKING HARDER!!!
I worked really really hard in corporate and barely had any money left after taking care of all my expenses.
In 2023, I worked far less than I ever had before (hours-wise). But, I worked more intentionally than ever before! I learned how to use my mind to start getting what I want. And I started to let go of the person who I was. The good, the bad and the ugly. Allowing for the new version of me to unfold. The bigger version of me.
The person I created and became in 2023 will not take me to the next level. I still have growing to do. A lot of it. I have to let go of even my most cherished beliefs and habits. The ones that served me getting me here have to go to get me to where I am going.
True manifestation is manifesting a new identity of yourself. It is developing a whole new consciousness. It is rebirthing. It is aligning yourself to your truth and that truth is that you have infinite potential.
My biggest lessons from this past year, which many are still unfolding for me are:
Whether your goal is to hit 6-figures, 7-figures or 8-figures. It won’t be the same things that got you to where you are that will take you to where you want to go. It will always come down to your self-image. And, you cannot outperform the image you hold of yourself.
Now, as we enter into 2024, I have made the decision to go off on my own and forge my own path in the coaching industry. All of the lessons I have learned, all of my personal growth, and all of my investments in myself have given me the confidence and courage to make this next move.
The pathway towards your goal is not a straight one. The goal and purpose don’t change, but the plan can. Learning to lean into the discomfort will be what takes me, and takes you, to the
next level. Each and every time.
If you want to learn more about self-image, or you are ready to hit your next level in business, reach out. It is the strangest, most uncommon things that will get you there.
Kayleigh Kennedy is the Founder and Mentor of Limitless Coaching. Contact Kayleigh at hello@kayleighkennedy.com or follow her on Instagram @thekayleighkennedy
A Reminder to Smile: Elevating Self-Care for Businesswomen
Warm greetings to the dynamic entrepreneurs of "Happy Healthy Women in Business"! Today, let's reacquaint ourselves with the profound yet simple act of prioritizing our well-being, all while wearing a smile. This gentle nudge serves as a reminder of how self-care is not just beneficial but essential for our success in both business and life.
The Smile Philosophy in Business:
As a Reiki Master, my mantra "Me First with a Smile" isn't about self-preference; it's a testament to how our own health and happiness serve as the bedrock for thriving businesses. At our peak, we become powerhouses of creativity, strategy, and resilience.
Journeying Through Smiles:
Join me on a personal reflection. From Reiki skeptic to advocate, I've discovered the incredible power of inner energy alignment. Sharing a smile ignites a positive feedback loop: my joy becomes my family’s joy, and together, our happiness amplifies. When I teach Reiki[https://www.japan-reiki.ca/courses/] on weekends, this joy reassures me, completing a cycle that nurtures professional growth and profound personal satisfaction.
The Role of SMILE in Our Self-Care Journey:
In our self-care odyssey, let SMILE be our guide: Self-care, Mindfulness, Intuition, Love, and Elevation. Each element a pillar supporting our holistic well-being and business acumen.
Wellness Reiki Circle: A Space of Collective Healing:
Join us at the Wellness Reiki Circle, a sanctuary beyond mere relaxation. It's where collective energy meets individual intent, creating a tapestry of rejuvenation and empowerment, woven together every Wednesday.
I extend an invitation to join our Wellness Reiki Circle. Whether in search of tranquility, motivation, or camaraderie, our circle welcomes you. Remember, caring for ourselves is not just permissible; it’s vital for our entrepreneurial excellence.
Conclusion: Keeping the Smile Philosophy Alive:
As we journey through the world of business, let the smile philosophy be our constant companion. It symbolizes our dedication to self-care, our entrepreneurial spirit, and the collective strength of our community.
I would love to hear how self-care shapes your business ventures. Share with us in the comments or reach out to learn more about the Wellness Reiki Circle. Together, let's champion self-care, not solely for our personal enrichment but for our collective prosperity in business.
Nasreen, a Reiki Master Teacher and founder of Japan Reiki Studio, is also the Canada chapter head of the Japan Reiki Association. She introduces women to self-care and energy work through her Wellness Reiki Circle, a first step in their transformative journey. With a philosophy of 'me first, then everyone else,' Nasreen emphasizes self-healing as essential for empowerment. A former skeptic turned passionate practitioner, she dedicates her life to teaching, healing, and life coaching, aiming to elevate vibrations and spread resilience and positivity.
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In the competitive world of business, a leader's confidence can make all the difference. And what better foundation for confidence than a clear understanding of your values? Whether you're guiding a team or forging your path as a solopreneur, embracing your core values isn't just about making sound decisions—it's about cultivating the kind of confidence that inspires and leads. This post explores the transformative power of aligning your leadership style with your deepest values, and how this alignment can empower you at every stage of your professional journey.
1. Values at the Heart of Leadership:
Think of values as your north star, guiding everything you do. For team leaders, this means building a work culture that everyone believes in and follows. For solopreneurs, your values are your brand's heartbeat, shaping every aspect of your business and attracting customers who share your ideals.
2. Discover and Embrace Your Values:
Start by figuring out what matters most to you. Is it honesty, creativity, or maybe sustainability? Once you've nailed down your values, share them with your team or weave them into your business. It's all about walking your talk and letting those values shine in every action you take.
3. Making Decisions That Reflect Your Values:
When your decisions are rooted in your values, they feel right and make a lasting impact. For team leaders, this means staying true to what you believe, especially when the going gets tough. For solopreneurs, it's about building a brand that's a true reflection of you and what you stand for.
4. Tackling Challenges with Your Values as Your Guide:
Challenges? They're just part of the game. But with your values as your guide, you can navigate any storm. For team leaders, this means sticking to your principles, even when you're under pressure. For solopreneurs, it means staying loyal to what you believe in, even when the market tries to push you in a different direction.
5. Leading by Example:
Actions speak louder than words. Show your team or customers how your values influence your actions. It's about making your values a living, breathing part of your day-to-day life. This is super powerful.
Your values are more than just guiding principles; they are the bedrock of your confidence as a leader. Whether leading a team or managing your own venture, your values provide clarity and conviction in your leadership style. By fully embracing your values, you enhance not only your decision-making but also the confidence with which you lead, paving the way for a more authentic and impactful leadership journey.
Karen Vaile is a Confidence & Life Coach and Founder of Karen’s Coaching Korner.
She helps businesswomen create the confidence they need to take the bold action necessary to achieve all their personal and professional goals.
Karen's mission is centred on transforming uncertainty, self-doubt and apprehension into assertiveness and decisive ambition. Through her 1:1 coaching program “Create Your Confidence” she tailors her approach to each client's unique needs helping each one to reach her fullest potential, attain her goals, embrace boldness and embody confidence and grace in every aspect of life. Karen can be reached via DM.
Karen is happy to be a Happy Healthy Women Toronto, ON Trailblazer.
As we enter a new year, many of us have embraced the age-old tradition of setting New Year’s Resolutions. The exercise is always rooted in the best of intentions, but in my experience, has invariably led to disappointment. Likely, because I’ve approached it from a place of judgment and “not good enough”. You see, when I’ve set resolutions in the past, it was to remove some unwanted behaviour, but I never back-filled the void I was creating with something better, healthier, more fun, more… hopeful. I’ve since learned that nature abhors a vacuum, so the hole I was creating would get plugged up with more “judgey junk - junkment?”.
In the past, I also hadn’t taken stock of the previous year’s wins so as to establish what my new baseline was for the upcoming year. We all want a Mulligan, or do-over come January 1st, but we often fail to see that we are now at a new starting point - one that’s pre-filled with 365 days of experiences and lessons, and tons of small successes - if we take the time to see them. To ignore, dismiss or downplay what’s happened is missing out on a very important piece to go forward in our personal growth.
My hindsight also often focused primarily on the month of December (since it’s freshest in our memory) where I’ve just stressed out over the “short month” that has either derailed my business goals or had me working long hours to meet orders, prepping for the Holidays and then smack into the common finale of “I can’t believe I’m sick again at Christmas!”
This year, I wanted to do things differently. I decided to acknowledge some things in an authentic light so I could look forward with a better sense of myself, my potential and get clarity on my vision for 2024. Here’s my new approach.
I fully realized this year that, for me anyway, December had a sense of melancholy attached to it. I lost my sister this past September and the 20th anniversary of my father’s passing was on December 8th.
In the past, I would have gone through the motions of feeling blue without any further reflection - just give it time and let it pass. This year, however, I decided to take a deeper dive. It was a simple thing, really. I gave myself permission: the grief I was feeling was real, it was ok not to be ok and I deserved to give myself grace. My grief didn’t know what day it was. I felt it, acknowledged it, then blessed and released it for now - fully realizing that it would return on other occasions, and that was ok.
I also went back through the year by reviewing 3 sources: my calendar, my journals (I have a hard cover and digital version I use every day), and my photos. As I reviewed these three areas, I decided to look at it as though I were looking at someone else’s life, or conversely if a complete stranger were to look at these 3 areas, what might they see? That enabled me to release myself from judgment and see the wins for what they were and send blessings and gratitude to the not-so-great moments for the beautiful gifts and lessons that were embedded in them. I embraced that exercise with childlike curiosity and wonder.
I would highly encourage you to delve into your own calendars, journals, and photos to identify common threads. Recognize what lights you up and what drains you. Armed with this insight, you gain control over saying yes or no to activities in the future. Follow the "bliss threads" – those activities that bring you joy. Reflect on past habits, decide what worked, and initiate the stacking of small, manageable, and sustainable habits that align with your goals.
I know I’m splitting semantic hairs here, but hear me out. If, for you, the word “resolution” doesn’t have a heavy, negative weight to it, then have at it - set as many resolutions as you like.
I, on the other hand, see resolutions as having a focus on immediate change with a strict, binary win-lose scenario. When I’ve set them in the past, I would last six weeks on average, then drop off, and slip away hoping no one noticed what a loser I was for still doing / eating… fill in the blank. Clearly, merely "quitting" something wasn’t cutting it. I had to replace the habit in question with activities that were pleasant, enjoyable, and empowering.
Goals, on the other hand, are about sustained growth. Having a big audacious goal, like climbing Everest, can be transformative and terrifying at the same time. However, much like climbing Everest, setting smaller, achievable “basecamp” goals along the way can provide you with a roadmap for personal evolution, growing and stretching that much more at every junction.
This past year, I learned a couple of things about goals. One is, I had to have a vision first - what was it I really wanted? Creating a vision board in May 2023 was one of the most transformative experiences of my life. By November 2023, I had manifested not one, not two, but THREE of the images from my board. To say that vision boards are powerful tools is a serious under-statement.
Tip #1: Give Yourself Permission
When I created my vision board, my biggest challenge was admitting what I actually wanted. I know that sounds trite, but my alter-ego (that nagging voice in my head. I call her Madge. She’s the worst) would wag the guilt finger at me anytime I started entertaining ANY idea of fun, wealth, abundance, success.
If any of this sounds familiar, the fix for this can be simple pen and paper:
Get in a relaxed state - a few long, deep breaths
Set a timer for five minutes
During that time, write everything that crosses your mind that you would like - no matter how big or small.
That’s it. No judgment, just fun. See how many things you can write in that time frame. You don’t even have to do anything with this list, the purpose is to get it all out of your body and onto that page and to experience what it’s like to express all your wants.
Tip #2: Get in the Habit
Next, I learned that the real power in achieving goals lies in the compounding effect of constant, spaced repetition. Repetition of learning, absorbing and integrating stacked habits - habits that are energetically aligned with my main goal, and all the basecamp goals leading to it. You see, wishing for something gets you nowhere, you have to take inspired action at every turn. Stacked habits pave the way for that action since they’re impacting your overall behaviour.
Tip #3: Cast Yourself in the Lead
Lastly, and most importantly, I have come to SEE myself as this new version of me that embodies these new habits, see myself having achieved the goal (and, Baby, I look goooooood). That, right there, has been far more empowering than the reverse effect of setting a resolution.
When you’re setting goals for yourself, imprint that image of YOU having achieved those goals. This is where the power of vision boards comes in. With a picture of yourself in a happy time taking center stage on your board, this helps put you in the lead role of the beautiful life you’re envisioning through your very own curated images. Write a stunning self-image script that describes you in this fabulous end game you’ve imagined. Then, following Tip #2, look at that vision board and read that script every day so as to create this indelible image on your subconscious.
So for 2024, I have reviewed, re-adjusted and rewritten my goals. I’ve also opened myself up to invite others in - both people I can serve and people whom I trust that can support me. I continue to immerse myself in study (part of my stacked habits) and continue to ask how I can better serve the world around me with the gifts I’ve been given. I am finding that in gaining clarity around my vision, giving myself permission, integrating stacked habits and tuning up my self-image, the Universe is responding and letting me know it truly does have my back.
Oh - and not a small point here - I have also decided to infuse 2024 with FUN! Yes, I’m focused on business, my health, my relationships, and my overall growth, but I plan on having fun at every turn while I execute and manifest. 
Let’s face it, none of us know how long we’ll be bouncing around on this big blue marble, so why not skip, play hopscotch, make snow angels, sing at top volume, hug the stuffing out of those awesome peeps around us, try a new recipe, take out the china for weekday meals, and say “Hiya Gorgeous” every time you walk by a mirror?
In the script that is your life, make yours Oscar-worthy…. I can’t wait to see who you’ll be wearing.
Carole Filion is an author, speaker and mindset coach who helps women in or approaching their 60’s rediscover their magnificent selves and helps them map out their third act with excitement, grace and a whole lot of fun!
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Grit up to Level up
Building self-confidence one challenge at a time
Grit – It's not the latest trendy snack, nor the stuff you find in your kid's sandbox. Nope, in the world of self-improvement, grit is the shiny golden ticket to success. But don't worry; it's not all serious business. Grit is like that cheeky sidekick who makes every superhero story more fun. So, let's unravel the mystery of grit, why it's the peanut butter to your confidence's jelly, and how resilience adds a little cherry on top of your personal success sundae.
What's Grit Anyway?
First things first, let's break it down – grit is not just the sandpaper's cooler cousin. It's that never-give-up attitude, the tenacity, the "I won't take no for an answer" spirit. Grit is the unsung hero that keeps you chasing your dreams, even when life tosses obstacles your way. It's like the alarm clock that won't let you hit snooze on your goals.
Grit and Confidence: A Dynamic Duo
Grit and confidence are like the dynamic duo of personal development but without the spandex costumes. Grit is your trusty sidekick, the Robin to your Batman, pushing you into the spotlight, onto that stage, and straight into the action. It's the initial surge of energy that gets you going when you're about to tackle something new. Without grit, you might just stay in your comfort zone, forever wondering "what if."
But wait, here comes the twist: grit, on its own, is like trying to bake a cake without any frosting. It's kind of dry and not nearly as sweet. You see, life is full of curveballs, and sometimes, you'll need more than grit to catch them. Enter resilience, the cherry on top.
Resilience: The Cherry on Top
Resilience is your secret weapon, your ability to bounce back from setbacks with a smile. It's the cool, collected friend who helps you deal with life's surprises. Resilience is what keeps you from crumbling when things don't go as planned. It's like a trusty umbrella in a sudden downpour; you stay dry, while others are running for cover.
Imagine you're a surfer catching a gnarly wave, and that wave represents your confidence journey. Grit is what gets you on your board and paddling out into the ocean, ready to conquer that wave. It's the rush of excitement as you ride it. But, just like in the real ocean, sometimes you wipe out, and the wave crashes over you. That's where resilience becomes your lifeguard.
Resilience is like the lifeguard who helps you back on your board, no matter how many wipeouts you've had. It's the reassuring voice that says, "Don't worry; you can tackle that wave again." So, with grit as your surfboard and resilience as your lifeguard, you're ready to ride the waves of confidence, wipeouts and all. Cowabunga!
In the grand adventure of personal development, grit is your witty sidekick, while resilience is the cherry on top of your success sundae. So, go ahead, rock your cape, jump into your adventure-mobile, and embark on your journey to confidence. With this dynamic duo, you're ready for any challenge that comes your way. It's like a superhero movie but starring you, and the plot is your journey to unstoppable confidence. Holy grit, Batman!
Embrace boldness. Embody confidence.
Karen Vaile is a Confidence & Life Coach and Founder of Karen’s Coaching Korner.
She helps businesswomen create the confidence they need to take the bold action necessary to achieve all their personal and professional goals.
Karen's mission is centred on transforming uncertainty, self-doubt and apprehension into assertiveness and decisive ambition. Through her 1:1 coaching program “Create Your Confidence” she tailors her approach to each client's unique needs helping each one to reach her fullest potential, attain her goals, embrace boldness and embody confidence and grace in every aspect of life. Karen can be reached via DM.
Karen is happy to be a Happy Healthy Women Toronto, ON Trailblazer.
The habits of athletes and writers, upon inspection, often appear similar. You may think they might be incompatible at first glance. Think of this example: morning writers tend to rise early and prioritize their writing practice first in the day. Many athletes drag themselves out of bed before first light, scarf down a breakfast to feed their muscles, then straight to the workout ahead.
My routine was slightly different when I worked out seven days a week. I’d wake, stretch out with some yoga in the dark, and walk to the dimmed glow of the stove hood fan in the kitchen for a simple breakfast of toast and tea, my eyes adjusting to the soft light as I approached. Then off to my desk for two hours, the first half hour consumed by morning pages and then looking through my notes for what I might write about for the day. Then, I switched to my computer to transcribe handwritten drafts, edit previously entered drafts, or complete a deadline. Then, around 8:30 or 9 a.m., I’d switch to riding the bike for thirty minutes of cardio, then lifting some weights.
The similarity is clear. Morning writers and athletes put their practice first before all else. Both also tend to put in extra time later in the day after school or work.
However, I find my muse loves to tease me when I am in the middle of a cardio stint or a yoga stretch. So I hung a notepad and pen near the Monarch bike I used before smartphones could be told to take dictation into notes. Cardio enhanced my dialogue scenes when I went for a run. The faster my legs churned, the more my two heroines rapid-fired their verbal exchange. I bought a hand-held voice-activated recorder for that dialogue. Before using that device, I could never remember the dialogue as rich as what played out in my mind when my body was on the move.
If you still think these two activities are opposed and require different devotion from the brain, read on.
When athletes and artists fear failure in their vocation, it holds them back. We both must push through that dis-ease of not arriving yet at our desired skill level. Not knowing where we will place or when we finish can dampen our enthusiasm. Maybe more so for writers, as it is often a solitary venture where most serious athletes have coaches. When athletes don’t push through the pain and fatigue, they can lose their lead even though they might have more strength and a better technique than a competitor. Writers must push back on their inner critic and trust their first rough drafts. Writers can compensate for this by joining or forming writing groups that provide encouragement and can see our gems when we cannot. There is no subterfuge here. As you may know, I offer many resources, positive and safe groups, co-working sessions, and inspiration hints for writers.
If you have no exercise routine and identifying with athletes is the furthest thing from your mind, may I suggest looking at some of your routine habits where you can stack writing on as a regular activity. For example, leaving your journal with your morning beverage paraphernalia to remind you it’s time to write.
Just as an athlete can have a bad day where their energy is down, writers can have blasé days where they feel their words lack any punch. While some writing coaches say let them go and where an athlete might hit the shower and go home for a nap, I have found some shitty (yes, I swore) rough drafts may have minuscule phrases that reward persistent effort. One of my favourite books on writing was published in 1937. The author, Dorothea Brand, taught me that when left alone for a minimum of five days, a rough draft can reveal magic tidbits we don’t see when reviewing it too early. I like to borrow the phrase from a mentor that this critical voice is the ‘itty-bitty-shitty-committee’ ready to pounce on any of our grand ideas. The point here is to trust that each effort will lead you somewhere.
We writers can learn from athletes standing tall with gold medals and let go of any embarrassment or humility connected to a great writing day or achievement. This is why I often ask writers in my events to write a little note of praise in front of their name after a writing stint. It may take a long time to hear outside kudos for our writing. We must do that for ourselves. In all areas of life, to believe outside praise of our accomplishments, we must own it internally. Claim it when you have passed a milestone, such as tricky paragraphs or chapters, or achieved a set word count. When you show up and apply the seat of your pants to the seat of your chair, you deserve a celebration even if you are gazing out the window thinking up ideas, phrases, dialogue, blog ideas; remember – you are writing!
Athletes vary their workouts. If you are hitting the wall with dialogue, try setting a scene. If you write long poetry, try a haiku, or if the plot isn’t stealing your imagination with possibilities, do characterization stints on your main characters. What do they seek to gain or stand to lose, and what stands in their way? I used to do my workouts backward when the weights weren’t challenging me anymore (with weights, you want to feel the burn) Switching up your approach to the page can feel lighter, freeing, and less daunting and give you a renewed sense of strength in your craft.
Plan for your writing times, aiming to be as faithful as pro athletes, knowing you can vary your approach. Write the middle or the end or transitions. One detective heroine who worked out swimming and running once ran up numerous stairs in a skyscraper after the villain. Out of breath, she muttered in her head, it doesn’t matter how fit you are in one capacity; another cardio challenge can show you your weaknesses. Exercise in all genres when you need a break from your own and want to test other creative muscles. You might find another area to play and excel in.
Another tip to push through the fog or resistance is to challenge yourself to tiny drills the way an athlete would. Such as a single paragraph, chapter titles, section outlines, or word clouds to develop your next idea.
Both athletes and writers require sleep to be able to perform. I am grateful to be a morning writer. My muse does not often tease me at night.
Our creative brains and our physical bodies need plenty of both. If athletes overdo their regimen when tired or dehydrated, they can experience injury. Watch out for that carpal tunnel. (Cancel. Cancel. You are free of that!) Our brains are mostly water, and our thought processes can become sluggish when dehydrated.
Writers can experience emotional injury. Say what? Guilt. Circumstances, family needs, and day jobs can steal you away from meeting your writing goals. Be kind to yourself and return guilt-free to your desk or favourite writing chair as soon as possible. Plan in rest periods to let your mind wander and play. You’ll know and feel it when a writing idea, scene, or plot begs to be landed on the page and screen. Then return to your writing times with a renewed vigour.
S - Specific
M - Measurable
A - Achievable
R - Realistic
T - Time
Just as athletes set out benchmarks to beat or meet, time trials to shave off a few seconds, and add more pounds on their lifts, writers need achievable marks to hit. Start with manageable goals like 100 words of prose a day. When you steadily hit your goal, and if you find yourself regularly writing more, you may decide to up your goal. I once decided to write a poem a day for a year. At the end of the year, I had more than 365 poems, so I did a crazy thing and challenged myself to write four poems a day for a whole year. Foolish me, some days, I strained to pull out two poems, and some days, I scratched out six to catch up.
But I did it and ended up with some stellar and definitely not-so-stellar poems totalling over 1,460 poems. Reach out if you want a free inspiration boost.
Knowing your specific strategic objectives for your writing and being aware of the aspects under your control is essential with S.M.A.R.T goals. Receiving best-seller status, making it on some key lists, and receiving awards are outside your control. Staying true to writing your very best, creating a support team, and choosing your book journey team members are all realistic aspects up to you. Look at all the steps to reach your goal. Break any step down that seems too big. Plot a timeline, then create a schedule and routine you can confidently follow to meet your spaced-out goals. With these tips in mind, you can and will achieve your desired result. You know where to find me if you want assistance anywhere along your writing/book journey path.
Rusti L Lehay, a global editor and book and writing coach, created over 40 articles guiding writers to authordom. Witnessing writers find and speak in their unique voice to serve the real boss, the audience, not the editor, is one of Rusti’s greatest joys. She offers bi-monthly online writing STAY-Treats and monthly lounges and teaches weekly creative writing classes. Her primary mission is to inspire, provide value, and make writing fun and easy.
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There's a unanimous consensus among experts that a sharp, professional headshot is non-negotiable in today’s digital business world. However, the real questions emerge when we consider taking it a step further – when and why should you invest in your personal brand photography, and what tangible impact does it have? Why bother putting your face out there if you’re not a model or selling your radiant smile?
Let’s explore why your portrait is more powerful than you might think.
The Face Factor: Why your photos speak volumes
Portrait of Dr. Lucille Necas, The Joy of Purpose
Imagine your personal brand as a storybook, and each photo of yourself is a chapter. Even if you're not selling your looks, people connect with faces and personalities. Humanizing your brand makes it relatable and approachable. Your face becomes the visual anchor that helps your audience remember you in the sea of online content.
Still wondering what does your face have to do with what you sell? Think again. When you choose a lawyer, real estate agent or a business coach to work is (and boy, it’s not an easy task!), you expect certain professional qualifications. But how do you pick the one out of many, all other things equal? It’s their personality that makes you want to work with them. Whatever traits you are drawn to in people, they are embedded in their brand, and it all starts with first impressions.
So, whether you're a coach, consultant, or a product-based business owner, your face is your secret weapon to stand out in a crowd. People connect with people, not logos!
Strategic Placement: Where and when to shine
Now that we've established the importance of you showing up, let's talk strategy. It's not just about plastering your face everywhere; it's about knowing where and when to showcase your personal brand photography for maximum impact.
1) Your website: Your website is your virtual storefront, and your photos are the welcoming committee. Your best shot on your homepage creates an instant connection with visitors and it could be a deciding factor in whether they are scheduling that first discovery call with you. I kid you not, this is how I chose my therapist. Don't shy away from including photos across different pages to maintain that personal touch throughout the browsing experience.
2) Social media: Whether you are more present on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn or TikTok, social media is where your personal brand photography can truly shine. Depending on the platform, you might choose to show more fun and quirky side of your personality, or authoritative and educational. Regardless, no one is just one thing. And the beauty of social media is that it gives you an opportunity to showcase different sides of your personality, allowing more people to relate to you and identify with what you do. Use professional and personality-packed photos for your profile pictures and cover images. Intersperse candid shots to give your audience a closer look at the human behind the brand.
3) Email marketing: Inject a dose of personality into your emails by incorporating your photos strategically. A well-placed portrait in your email signature or a candid moment in your newsletter can make your messages more memorable and personable.
4) Events: Whether you’re organizing a virtual summit or an in-person conference, your face should be front and center. Attendees connect more with real people, so use this opportunity to showcase your personality and make lasting impressions.
Humanizing your brand makes it relatable and approachable. Your face becomes the visual anchor that helps your audience remember you in the sea of online content. ~ Veronica Kucherov
Portrait of Sushma Kashyap, Founder, Upright Bookkeeping
Setting the Stage for Success: How to become photogenic when you think you’re not
Still have hard feelings about putting your face in the spotlight? You are not alone. So many successful business owners put off their photo session as long as they can simply because being in front of the camera feels so uncomfortable. It might all make a lot of sense from the business perspective, and yet, there is nothing more personal than your face. How do you step out of your comfort zone when deep down you believe that you just don’t look good in photos?
Let's talk about the crucial planning stage. It's not just about grabbing your smartphone and snapping a selfie (although those have their time and place). Strategic personal brand photography begins with meticulous planning. To look good, you have to feel good first. And to feel good, you need to trust the process. Here is how to do it right:
• Planning like a pro: Before you start worrying about posing and your facial expressions, take a step back and ask yourself: What story do you want your photos to tell? Are you the friendly next-door expert or the sophisticated industry maven? Align your photo strategy with your brand message. It's the difference between a scattered photo collection and a cohesive visual narrative.
• Know your audience: Your ideal client is at the heart of your personal brand. It’s not just about you – it’s about what you can do for them. Thank about speaking to them at their eye-level. If your audience is stay at home homemakers, go for casual, relaxed shots that exude approachability. If they are high-level corporate executives, opt for images exuding strength, power, and authority.
• Outfit selection: Your wardrobe can make it or break it. Choose outfits that not only align with your brand but also look fantastic on camera. Solid colors often work best, avoiding busy patterns that might distract from your message. Don't forget about accessories – they can add that extra pop of personality without stealing the show.
• Getting camera-ready: Talking about “feel good first”, it’s hard to show up with confidence if you’re concerned about your hair being out of place or makeup done right. A professional touch with a skilled hair and makeup artist ensures you look your absolute best, boosting your confidence and translating into stunning visuals. Think about these photos as an investment in your brand and in yourself. If it’s worth it to pamper yourself for someone else’s wedding – it's okay to pamper yourself for your business success!
To look good, you have to feel good first. And to feel good, you need to trust the process. ~ Veronica Kucherov
Portrait of Carole Filion, Mindset Coach and Mentor
DIY vs. Pro: Imperfect action beats perfect inaction.
Professional photography is not cheap, and you know that you get what you pay for. As a professional photographer, my suggestion is either to do it right and consider it an investment, or DIY it yourself. Yes, I just said it. I heard too many horror stories about people deciding they are never doing a professional photo shoot again, because their 5-minute headshot didn’t turn out everything they wanted it to be. If you prefer to invest time, there are a lot of resources online that can help you understand the basic principles of photography, such as lighting, posing, and composition. If you are just starting out and have limited funds, with the right planning and a good eye, you can get you “good enough” images until you can afford the magic that a professional photographer brings to the table.
When to DIY: If you're confident in your photography skills, have a solid understanding of your brand and your marketing plan, and don’t shy away form a camera, DIY-ing your personal brand photos can be a budget-friendly option. Invest in good equipment, pay attention to lighting, and, most importantly, be patient with yourself. Research the examples and practice posing and facial expressions in front of the mirror. The DIY approach saves you money as long as you are realistic about the time that you will have to invest in exchange.
When to choose a pro: Hiring a professional photographer can elevate your photos to a whole new level, and ultimately saves you time – and yes, money too. Apart from the obvious – such as technical expertise and an artistic eye – a seasoned photographer can help you with your styling and planning. From location research, arranging a hair and makeup artist, and mapping out your shot list in line with your marketing strategy, the main benefit is in taking the stress out of your photo shoot, and freeing you up to focus on being your authentic self.
In conclusion, whether you choose the DIY route or opt for a pro, the key is to approach personal brand photography with intention and to be kind to yourself in the process. Your face is your brand's greatest asset, and your story is what makes you unique. To bring that story to your audience, the only step you need to take is the one outside of your comfort zone. I know it takes courage. You got it! Cheers to showcasing the amazing face behind your brand!
Portrait of Sushma Kashyap, Founder, Upright Bookkeeping
Veronica is the owner of Vongue Art Photography - a full-service portrait studio in Toronto helping camera-shy people over 40 look and feel their best in their photos. Veronica's mission is to photograph you the way you want to be seen. Whether it is to level up your business marketing, or to preserve your personal history in custom heirloom albums and wall art, you deserve to have portraits that make you feel beautiful and proud.
Emotions Matter: Feelings Are Our Friends
Acknowledging and accepting our emotions can lead to positive growth and healing.
There was a time when I couldn't stand my boss's phrase, "Feelings are our friends," especially during emotionally charged moments with a client. It seemed to mock my turmoil. However, over time, I realized the truth in those words. Emotions, despite their intensity, offer invaluable insights into our lives, reflecting our perceptions and interactions.
Recognizing and understanding our feelings is crucial—they signal our inner needs, desires, boundaries, and values. They guide us toward areas needing attention, be it growth, healing, or change. Rather than adversaries, emotions are messengers, essential for self-discovery and personal development.
Listening to these signals has taught me to see emotions as allies. Each one, from anger to joy, serves as a guidepost, highlighting something significant within us. By embracing them, we can transform emotional challenges into opportunities for self-awareness and empowerment.
Embracing our feelings indeed opens a door to a richer, more balanced life, guiding us towards resilience, wisdom, and inner strength. This journey of acceptance is not solitary. It unfolds a tapestry of human experience, woven with the threads of hope and the promise of a life where emotions are not just felt but celebrated. As we honour each emotion as a catalyst for personal growth and vitality, we pave the way to a more enlightened, fulfilling existence.
This path of emotional acceptance connects us to others, as it is a universal human experience that transcends individuality. Understanding our emotions fosters a deeper empathy, allowing us to recognize the common threads of our experiences. As we each navigate the nuances of our feelings, we become more attuned to those around us, enriching our relationships through shared understanding. The act of embracing our feelings leads to a collective well-being, where peace and contentment are not just personal achievements but communal treasures. By integrating and honouring our emotions, we create a world that values emotional wisdom as the bedrock of a compassionate and vibrant society.
Karen Vaile is a Confidence & Life Coach and Founder of Karen’s Coaching Korner.
She helps businesswomen create the confidence they need to take the bold action necessary to achieve all their personal and professional goals.
Karen's mission is centred on transforming uncertainty, self-doubt and apprehension into assertiveness and decisive ambition. Through her 1:1 coaching program “Create Your Confidence” she tailors her approach to each client's unique needs helping each one to reach her fullest potential, attain her goals, embrace boldness and embody confidence and grace in every aspect of life. Karen can be reached via DM.
Karen is happy to be a Happy Healthy Women Toronto, ON Trailblazer.
